When I was 25, not dating, and told them I wanted to know a man for at least five years before I married him, they said “Girl, you better meet somebody soon!”

I don’t know where I got this one, but always look at a guy’s shoes. Certain types of footwear mean a man just wouldn’t work for me.

I think it’s ego shattering to realize the strong feelings you’re having aren’t mutual, instead of moving on we delude our self into believing something else about the lack of interest.

It’s really so easy to tell when someone is interested in you, they act interested. >

My good dating advice came long ago from Ms. Manners. It was about breaking up. She subscribed to the Kafta-esque end to things. No contact. No processing. No emails back and forth. No phone calls. No teary ‘exchange of things’ in person. Her contention was akin to just ripping of the band aid really quickly, it was better to just have the no contact then have to constantly be reopening the wound. The best line from her was something along the lines of ‘no one ends a romance to lead a life of service or save the family through an alliance.’ Plus, if the breaker-up decides they made a horrible mistake they can always get back in touch with you. It made sometimes for a painful couple of days but at least it didn’t drag on and on. I actually ascribe to this philosophy with a lot in life. I love Ms. Manners.