Henry Louis Granju 1991-2010
Posted on 05/31/2010 07:55 pm by kagranju
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05/31/2010 at 7:57 pm
so sorry. your family is in our thoughts.
05/31/2010 at 7:58 pm
Henry’s story has touched so many. His death will not be in vain.
My condolences on this terrible, terrible loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:00 pm
Oh no. I’m so so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:01 pm
Oh Katie, I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family and you during this time. Bless you
05/31/2010 at 8:01 pm
I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:01 pm
I don’t have words for you. I wish I did but I don’t. I just wanted you to know that someone else was here for you.
05/31/2010 at 8:02 pm
My heart wants to stop beating. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:02 pm
So sorry, Katie.
05/31/2010 at 8:02 pm
I’m so sorry to read this. My heart goes out to you and the rest of your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:02 pm
I don’t know you or your son. I heard about this on a message board. I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband & I used to own a guitar shop and knew lots of “Henrys”. Thankfully, most of them made it through and grew up. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:03 pm
I only found your blog the day after H’s injury, Katie. I’ve been following ever since, hoping for the best. My thoughts are with all of you as you deal with this tragedy. Thank you so much for sharing the story and helping other families learn from your sorrow.
05/31/2010 at 8:04 pm
I’m so sorry. May he rest in peace. My condolences.
05/31/2010 at 8:04 pm
R.I.P. Beautiful Boy
05/31/2010 at 8:04 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for Henry and the rest of your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:04 pm
I am so very sorry. My condolences to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:06 pm
I’m so sorry, Katie. We’ll miss you, Sweet Henry.
05/31/2010 at 8:07 pm
I’ve been following your blog for a while now, and I had to sign on to give you my condolences. I’m sorry. I’ve been praying for you. I hope you can find some comfort.
05/31/2010 at 8:08 pm
My deepest condolences from one stranger who found your blog through Dawn. There are no words to say how sorry I am for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:08 pm
I’m so truly sorry Katie! Thank you so much for sharing your story. Praying for your family during this horrible time!
05/31/2010 at 8:08 pm
I am devastated for you, with you. I pray you and your family can find peace. If there is anyone any of us can do to help you in your quest for justice – writing to DAs, congressmen, etc. – please let us know.
05/31/2010 at 8:10 pm
Katie, my heart aches for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:10 pm
May Henry’s Memory be Eternal. Your whole family will be in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
05/31/2010 at 8:12 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that you and your family find peace one day.
05/31/2010 at 8:13 pm
I am so, so sorry. I will share Henry’s story and your message with as many other kids and parents as I can, always.
05/31/2010 at 8:14 pm
My heart is breaking for you and your family. What a terrible, tragic loss. He was a beautiful boy and the knowledge that he’s been cheated out of the life he should have had is so devastating. Please, please be gentle with yourself during this impossible time. This was not your fault. Blame the true culprit, the drugs and those who supply them. If love could have saved your son, it would have. I am thinking of all of you and sending good thoughts and love.
05/31/2010 at 8:14 pm
I’m so terribly sorry… There are no words… I am praying for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:14 pm
My heart won’t stop aching upon hearing this news. You have been and will continue to be in my prayers. I cannot find the words.
05/31/2010 at 8:15 pm
my heart aches all over for you and yours. i am so very sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:16 pm
I am so sorry for your loss, Katie. Your family will be in my heart and in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:16 pm
I am so very sorry. My heart is with Henry’s whole family.
05/31/2010 at 8:16 pm
So very sad. I’m so sorry for your loss. I linked to your blog through the BlogHer network just last week and haven’t been able to stop thinking about you and your son since. Praying for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:17 pm
I am so sorry for your loss, Katie. My heart hurts for you and your sweet boy.
05/31/2010 at 8:19 pm
I don’t know you or anyone in your family but my heart breaks for you all. May your sweet baby boy rest in peace.
05/31/2010 at 8:19 pm
I’m so terribly sorry, Katie. My condolences to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:19 pm
So very sorry. I will continue to pray for you and your family. Many, many hearts feel this loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:20 pm
Another stranger who has read and admired your work for years . . . I am so sorry that Henry is gone from earth.
05/31/2010 at 8:20 pm
Through your words he has touched the lives of so many people; he will be missed by many who never had the privledge of meeting him. Thank you for sharing him with us.
05/31/2010 at 8:20 pm
Oh no no no no no. I’m so sorry. I am crying for you, hurting for you, praying for you and your whole family.
05/31/2010 at 8:21 pm
Oh Katie, I am wishing you and your family peace now and for the days ahead. Sending love to you and your beautiful family. I’m so, so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:21 pm
My stomach dropped at this terrible terrible news. His story will never go in vain! I’m sorry Katie. This was not suppose to happen and I will continue to pray for you and your entire family. Rest in peace sweet boy.
05/31/2010 at 8:22 pm
May his soul find solace.
05/31/2010 at 8:22 pm
Oh, Katie. This is unreal. I cannot believe it. I’m so sorry.
Please continue to tell Henry’s story. I will read the book and then put it on my shelf until my sons are old enough. Please also tell us, when you are able, the charity of your choice so we can make a dedication to his memory.
05/31/2010 at 8:22 pm
Rich spoke both our hearts in the email he sent. You know where to find us though I imagine you never want to return here. I pray God’s grace be with you and your family now and forever more
05/31/2010 at 8:22 pm
Oh no, no, no.
I am so terribly sorry for you and the rest of your beautiful family.
05/31/2010 at 8:22 pm
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss.
You are in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:23 pm
Katie, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. My thoughts are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:24 pm
I LOVE the headings on your photos of Henry, for he was indeed a Beautiful Boy. So very beautiful. I’m so saddened by your loss. I’ve been crying over your site for days, and talking to my kids about your boy. Thanks for your honesty in sharing your journey with us unknown people. Sending tons of love across the country to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:25 pm
Love love love to you Katie. And to the kids. You made a difference in my life as a struggling mamawriter and Henry’s story has made a difference in my life now, too. You remain in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:25 pm
My family and I are so sorry to hear the news about H. We are praying for comfort and peace for you guys.
05/31/2010 at 8:26 pm
Katie,
I just followed you in the last couple of days. Oh, that photo of Henry reading his book, reminds me so much of my son who is at that age now. I have been thinking about you both so much. I don’t know what to say except, what electric lady says, ‘my heart hurts too for you, your sweet son and your whole family.’ I pray to god you are surrounded by loving people who are taking care of you all.
I wish i could hug you.
05/31/2010 at 8:26 pm
I am so, so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
05/31/2010 at 8:26 pm
My deepest, deepest condolences to you and your family. You’ll all remain in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:26 pm
I am so sorry to hear about Henry. There are no words for how terrible and unexpected this is.
05/31/2010 at 8:26 pm
as a mother, my heart aches for what you have gone theough in the last month and what you are going through now. blessings on you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:27 pm
I don’t even know you and your family (came by Twitter) but I have tears in my eyes. So sorry for your loss and wishing you and your family strength and, ultimately, peace and beautiful memories,
05/31/2010 at 8:27 pm
So very sorry!!
05/31/2010 at 8:28 pm
All I can say is that my heart is hurting so hard for you and your family. Your Henry was beautiful and amazing. His life meant so much, and the end of his life means so much. Because of you, he has left a lasting legacy for the sons of all the other moms who have read your story. We will let Henry’s story and your story teach us to be better moms than we were before, and our sons to be better sons than they may have been without Henry to lead the way. He will live on in them, Katie, everytime they say NO to drugs. I only wish you could have kept him longer, and that you could be hugging him right now.
05/31/2010 at 8:28 pm
I wish I knew words to comfort……just a lot of sadness right now…trying to also comfort Max, who is devastated. I do wish you and all of Henry’s family and friends comfort and peace.
05/31/2010 at 8:29 pm
Have left other notes elsewhere, but again so very sorry & so heartbroken for you all. I haven’t stopped crying since I saw your FB update.
Mainly just posting here now because my significant other’s mom (i.e. the prayer warrior) just happened to call about 10 minutes after I found out and passing along her condolences as well, she was so sorry to hear the news and will be keeping you all in prayers as well.
Much love to you, Jon, the kids, & all the rest of your family and I hope you all are able to find some peace & comfort somehow through the memories you all have of him. You will all always be in my thoughts & prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:30 pm
I’m so sorry, Katie. So very, very, very sorry. My heart aches for you and the whole family.
05/31/2010 at 8:30 pm
I am so very very sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:30 pm
I’m so very, very sorry. :*-( (((hugs)))
05/31/2010 at 8:31 pm
These pictures are beautiful. I am so sorry for your family’s loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:31 pm
Much love and hope to all of you.
05/31/2010 at 8:31 pm
Dearest Katie, I am so sorry for your loss.
There are no words. My heart is with you and all your family. May you find peace. Much love <3
05/31/2010 at 8:32 pm
I am so sorry!
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal;
Love leaves a memory no one can steal.
05/31/2010 at 8:33 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:34 pm
I’m so very, very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:35 pm
My heart is breaking for you.
05/31/2010 at 8:36 pm
Oh Katie – I am so so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:36 pm
Katie, i am so very, very sorry.
Henry will stay with me, as the years unfold. i thank you for letting us in during the last month, for sharing his story and his beauty and your sorrow.
take care of you, this long hard next piece of the walk.
05/31/2010 at 8:37 pm
I’m very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:38 pm
I am so, so very sorry. You have been, and will continue to be in my prayers! If it’s any consolation, please know that I’m around the same age as J, and H’s struggle has deeply impacted the local Knoxville schools. It was not in vain.
I know I and my friends are thinking much more seriously about drug use. All our thoughts are with you.
05/31/2010 at 8:38 pm
Katie, I am so, so sorry. There just aren’t words. I’m heartbroken. Such a beautiful boy.
05/31/2010 at 8:39 pm
Oh Katie: I am so sorry for your loss! My heart aches and breaks for you! I can only imagine the feelings you are having right now. I pray those thugs will be caught and justice will be served in this untimely death!
05/31/2010 at 8:39 pm
So very sorry. My prayers are with you all, and may peace be with you.
05/31/2010 at 8:39 pm
My heart breaks for you and your family and for the loss of your bright and talented boy. I know that he is surrounded by love and hope that the support that your story has inspired will keep you strong and protect you in the difficult days ahead. You are all in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:39 pm
I am so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:40 pm
I am so very sorry. I am a friend of Dawn’s and she has shared her concern and your story with us over the past several weeks. May you find peace and comfort–I am truly sad and sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:40 pm
I am so, deeply, painfully sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:40 pm
Oh, Katie, I’m so very sorry. There simply aren’t words. Sam and I are sending much love to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:40 pm
Peace be with you all. Thank you Katie for sharing your story, your memories and your beautiful boy. His life and his passing have most certainly been a powerful and important influence on more people than you will ever know. Your angel’s purpose here was a gift of immeasurable proportion. I pray you can rest now while you continue your journey.
Goodbye H. Thank you.
05/31/2010 at 8:41 pm
I’m so very sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:42 pm
I am so, so sorry.
x
05/31/2010 at 8:43 pm
what to say to a Mom at a moment like this…I know that nothing I say can take away the pain but feel I must say something. I am a mom to a 15 year old boy and 12 year old girl (febmoms 98 group is where we met). Henry was so fortunate to have such a fabulous mother and family. His death will not be in vain
Take care of yourself and that new baby waiting to come out to join this world!! Wishing you strength and support through this most difficult of times.
What beautiful photographs you have of him, what a treasure and source of comfort they will be.
05/31/2010 at 8:43 pm
Katie, I have been following your blog. I am heartbroken for you and your family tonight. May God provide comfort and peace for you and your family as you move through this impossible grief. I admire your courage for telling this story on your blog as I believe it will help launch a dialogue between parents and kids about drugs. I know it has given me the opening to discuss with my own children. I can’t imagine your grief, but I do hope the care, concern, and prayers of others will help in some way. Blessings to you.
05/31/2010 at 8:43 pm
Peace and love to Henry, Katie and family.
05/31/2010 at 8:44 pm
Oh no. So so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:44 pm
My little boy is 3 months old. You have changed the way I will talk to him about drugs. Thank you. Your loss is unimaginable to me. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:44 pm
Katie,
My heart is tearing apart with grief for you and your beautiful boy. I’m so sorry for your loss. Much love to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 8:45 pm
I heard about this through a friend of a friend, and I am in tears right now. My 18-year-old son came to us three weeks ago to tell us that he has been smoking marijuana–twice every day, for over a year. Reading through your horrible, horrible journey has given me the courage to call a counselor tomorrow, so we can know we have done everything within our power to alter our path. We may not change anything, but we need to know we have tried–and so does our son.
My thoughts, prayers, and blessings are with you.
05/31/2010 at 8:45 pm
You and your family, including Henry, are in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 8:46 pm
I came here through another blog, but I wanted to express my condolences. I’m so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 8:46 pm
My deepest sympathies to you and your family, for the loss of your son. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:46 pm
I’m so sorry. He is absolutely beautiful. Here for you, along with so many.
05/31/2010 at 8:47 pm
Katie, I’m so sorry. Absolutely heartbroken for you and your family. That first photo (all of them)… he is so beautiful. xo
05/31/2010 at 8:47 pm
We all wish your family comfort and piece. We’re heartbroken for you. God bless.
05/31/2010 at 8:48 pm
Katie, My heart breaks for you and you family. It is such a tragic story and way too common. I hope you find justice and some peace.
I have a grandson that just turned 15 yesterday and
I fear for his life and what he wiil be exposed to.
My prayers are with you.
05/31/2010 at 8:48 pm
no no no. i am heartbroken for you. prayers will not cease.
05/31/2010 at 8:48 pm
I came to your blog via Dawn just recently, and am heartbroken to read of your loss. My deepest condolences to you and yours. I hope you can take even a tiny bit of comfort in the fact that your decision to be open about Henry’s struggle — and yours — has affected parents across the country. Many thanks for sharing your story, and Henry’s.
05/31/2010 at 8:49 pm
What a beautiful, beautiful boy. May Henry rest comfortably tonight.
05/31/2010 at 8:50 pm
I am so sorry for you loss. I dont have any other words.
05/31/2010 at 8:51 pm
Katie, I’ve been reading you for years and following Henry’s struggle these past weeks. I cannot comprehend your loss. I’m so so sorry that life is so unfair and cruel and that this happened to your beautiful boy. I hope you find peace for you & your family, especially with your baby on the way.
05/31/2010 at 8:51 pm
Deepest, and most heartfelt sympathies. Praying for you during this tough time. Sending so much love your way…
05/31/2010 at 8:54 pm
What a cruel loss to your family and the world. You and your family are in my thoughts.
05/31/2010 at 8:54 pm
I’ve been praying for Henry. I’m so sorry, and I will keep praying for your sweet heart.
Love,
Stephanie
05/31/2010 at 8:54 pm
I am so, so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 8:55 pm
My deepest condolences. He was such a beautiful, beautiful boy.
05/31/2010 at 8:55 pm
I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss and the world’s loss of your beautiful boy. Thinking of you and everyone who knew and loved him.
05/31/2010 at 8:55 pm
I am so, so sorry. There are no adequate words. I will be praying for you and your family in your time of grief.
05/31/2010 at 8:56 pm
So sorry and so sad for all of you on the loss of your beautiful boy.
05/31/2010 at 8:56 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I was linked to your blog only yesterday, and read back to the beginning of Henry’s injury. Your words really touched me because I have a 1 year old boy, and I am thankful every day that, as you wrote, right now I can hold him and protect him, and that I am his entire world.
I had never thought about the future and preparing him for exposure to drugs and other dangerous experiences. Believe me, I will not forget. I will try so very hard to overcome my natural naiveté and prepare my son for the world, and you have begun that process for me.
My heart breaks for you, and for your beautiful baby boy.
05/31/2010 at 8:56 pm
I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. I am thinking about you and your beautiful family in these difficult times.
05/31/2010 at 8:57 pm
Longtime reader of your blog. I’m so so sorry for your loss. Holding you, Jon, J, E, C, G, and your extended family in my thoughts and prayers this evening. If there is anything any of us can do for you, please let us know.
05/31/2010 at 8:57 pm
I am so very, very sorry. You have been in my thoughts for the past month.
05/31/2010 at 8:58 pm
I am so, so sorry. My heart is breaking and aching for him and all of you who loved him so much. Though I have never met H, I felt like I knew him, because of your blog and intimate sharing. My heartfelt condolences and deepest sympathy to you and yours.
Phyllis
05/31/2010 at 8:58 pm
Oh my…Oh my…I’m so, so sorry. There are no words.
05/31/2010 at 8:58 pm
So very, very sorry. Wishing you solace, strength, and peace.
05/31/2010 at 8:59 pm
Oh, my God.
05/31/2010 at 9:00 pm
Nooooooooo. How can that beautiful, beloved boy be gone?
05/31/2010 at 9:00 pm
I am so, so sorry Katie.
05/31/2010 at 9:00 pm
Katie –
Beautiful boy, beautiful mother, beautiful family. I am so so very sorry.
My own beautiful boys are eight years old. Your openness and honesty were the spark for our recently initiated conversation about addiction. It will be an on-going conversation, and I will think of Henry and of your family’s fierce love and tragic loss every single time we revisit this life and death issue.
Please take care.
05/31/2010 at 9:00 pm
I am speechless, and so very, very sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:01 pm
No words for this. (((Katie and family)))
05/31/2010 at 9:02 pm
So sorry for your loss. May your beautiful boy rest in peace.
05/31/2010 at 9:03 pm
I�m so terribly sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 9:04 pm
I�¢ï¿½ï¿½m so terribly sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 9:04 pm
There’s nothing to say. I’m sickened by your news. Henry’s life and death have surely effected the way I will talk to my child about drugs and react to any early drug use. Sending you so much strength, Katie.
05/31/2010 at 9:05 pm
My condolences to you and your family. You and your son will be in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 9:05 pm
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:06 pm
Katie, my condolences to you and your family on the loss of your beautiful son. I’ll keep all of you in my thoughts–I hope you are all wrapping yourselves in love as you move through the coming days.
05/31/2010 at 9:07 pm
Just devasting. I could not be more sorry your boy could not be saved. Your writing has been extraordinary lately making us all pay closer attention to our own teenagers and show our love more freely. You’ve started quite a few dinner conversations I’d wager. I’ve lost my mom, my sister, and my mother-in-law all in the past two years and felt like I lost my cheering section, but those griefs (and the funny ways they come and go) are not to be compared to hard days ahead for you and your family. I know we all wish we could help ease the ache and my entire family especially extends our condolences. We would be glad to make phone calls to the correct authorities to see that this crime which clearly has a victim is correctly prosecuted. Please let your loyal readers help in some small way. Our very warmest thoughts to you in these hard times.
05/31/2010 at 9:08 pm
So sorry for your loss. May god give you the strength that you need today.
05/31/2010 at 9:09 pm
There are no words. I’m so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:09 pm
We are praying for you and your family. Henry’s story has touched many. I hope in time that will bring you comfort. For now, I am praying for that you will be surrounded by love.
05/31/2010 at 9:10 pm
Dearest Katie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I read a few entries as tonight I just found your blog. I immediately talked to my 2 children and they had their first time hearing about drugs ever. They will hear more… your son will have helped so many others because of your voice. Thank you so much, and love to you and your family.
Marjie
05/31/2010 at 9:10 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
05/31/2010 at 9:11 pm
Oh my, oh my, so sorry, Katie, so very very sorry, I don’t know what to say, I am so sorry, Henry is on his way to heaven on the wings of angels tonight. So very sorry, I am praying for you, Katie.
05/31/2010 at 9:11 pm
Oh Katie,
I am heartbroken for you and all the rest of Henry’s family. Thinking of you lots. I am so so sorry.
xoxo
05/31/2010 at 9:11 pm
There are no words. I am so, so sorry.
The pictures are beautiful. thank you for sharing them.
05/31/2010 at 9:13 pm
My heart goes out to you, your family and all H’s friends. What a beautiful son. I can not imagine the pain you feel at this time. How wonderful it has been to have this blessing from God with you for 18 years. I have been following H’s story as my daughter was a friend of his. I feel H has brought us closer together. He is no longer suffering and is in eternal bliss. May God be with you and your family as you begin the greiving of a beautiful son.
05/31/2010 at 9:13 pm
I am so very, very sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:13 pm
Hi, I am so incredibly sorry for your painful loss. Your son is so beautiful. I will be praying for you and your family during this painful time. Please know that you have touched my life and I am going to do everything I can to ensure my children do not touch drugs.
xoxo
05/31/2010 at 9:14 pm
So incredibly sorry for your loss… Please know, though, that what you have shared about this tragedy is helping so many other families. Love and strength to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:17 pm
Katie – I’m so sorry. H is such a beautiful boy. My heart is broken for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:17 pm
I’m so sorry, my heart breaks for you and your family
05/31/2010 at 9:18 pm
Oh, I am so sorry. I am so, so incredibly sorry and speechless and heartbroken for your whole family. Yet grateful for how much you have shared with the world. He will always be remembered….even by people he never met.
05/31/2010 at 9:18 pm
Oh no. I am so, so sorry. He IS an amazingly beautiful boy. I lost my father this past week and went into labour on what was supposed to be his memorial day. It has been terribly hard and yet I know it doesn’t hold a candle to what you are going through.
I am sending all my love and support your way. I know it’s not much but it’s what I can offer and I hope that together with all the love and support of all the other people here that it provides you with a little comfort, even for a moment.
I just wanted to say: I see your beautiful boy, and I can tell how loved he is.
05/31/2010 at 9:18 pm
I am so sorry, Katie. My heart breaks for you and your entire family. You all have been in my thoughts and prayers since the very first day of Henry’s terrible tragedy and will continue to be as you grieve and find some sort of peace.
I know Henry’s death will not be in vain. You are a wonderful mother with such a powerful voice. I know you will help us all learn from this terrible loss. In fact, you have already challenged us all to think and talk about drug addiction. More importantly you have us thinking about how we should talk to our kids about drugs, and what an appropriate response to drug use should be.
You’re a good mama, Katie. You’re a good mama.
05/31/2010 at 9:19 pm
I am so sorry.
You have forever changed how I look at drug addiction, and my husband and I have had several serious conversations about how we will talk to our (future) kids about drugs as we raise them and what we will do if we find them using drugs.
Such small comfort to offer in the face of such a loss…
My deepest condolences to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:20 pm
Words seem so inadequate at a time like this, yet I offer my condolences. As the mother of an 18 yo son when I heard about your beautiful son’s injuries, it touched a place deep inside me. I work with at risk youth, please know that your son’s story touched many. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:20 pm
God, I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m staring and Saturn and thinking about how he is still here…
05/31/2010 at 9:20 pm
You and your family have been in my prayers and will continue to be so. I am sorry for your profound loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:20 pm
No, no, no!!!! It’s just not fair!!! I am so, so very sorry for your loss!!! Wishing you and your family strength to move through this enormous grief…
05/31/2010 at 9:21 pm
My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. I’m so terribly sorry for the way his light left this world; far too soon. (hugs) and (more hugs)
05/31/2010 at 9:21 pm
I am so, so sorry. My heart just sank when I read this. I have no words to offer you peace, but wish something could make this better. Even though I only know of you through mutual online friends, you, your family and Henry’s story will impact my family for a long time.
05/31/2010 at 9:21 pm
I am so very sorry for this tragic, terrible loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:21 pm
So, so sorry — my thoughts are with you and your whole family.
05/31/2010 at 9:22 pm
Memorial day will never be the same for me again.
SO sorry for your other little peanuts missing their brother.
05/31/2010 at 9:23 pm
Oh how my heart just sank, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:24 pm
I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. I have one of my own, and when he’s old enough I will tell him this story. Love to you.
05/31/2010 at 9:24 pm
we are holding your whole family in the Light, Katie. we are praying that you may find peace, courage and some measure of comfort in one another along this part of your journey. we are so very, very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:25 pm
I wish you and your family peace and strength as you make your way through. I am so sorry for your loss, my heart is aching for you – one mama to another.
05/31/2010 at 9:25 pm
I am sorry. so so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:25 pm
As others have already said, there are no words. Only a helpless reaching out of hearts and hands.
05/31/2010 at 9:25 pm
I’m so sorry. My heart breaks for all of you. I’ve read your blog for many years and I can’t believe this has happened.
05/31/2010 at 9:25 pm
My condolences on the death of your wonderful boy. May your happy memories of him bring you comfort in the difficult days ahead. Even though I don’t know you, I can tell by what I have read that you did your best and were a great Mom to your dear son. I think H probably tried his best too, but, for whatever reason, he could not escape his addiction. Thank you for sharing the story of your family. Take care.
05/31/2010 at 9:26 pm
I was so afraid and now see the confirmation of all our deepest fears. I agree with the other poster that if love could have saved him, he would have been saved. I know you must grieve and I hope you have plenty of time and space for that. And then I hope you will be able to return to the world of the living and find hope and peace in those that surround you still in love.
05/31/2010 at 9:28 pm
I am just a stranger who will now and forever remember your son and his story and share it so it does not happen to more beautiful people like him. Incredibly sorry for your tragic loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:28 pm
I’m so very, very sorry. I am a complete stranger, but I have been and will be thinking of you and your family and your beautiful son.
05/31/2010 at 9:28 pm
Oh, this is impossible. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:29 pm
My daughter and her fiance know H and we have been following his condition. Our hearts weep for your loss. What a beautiful son! H has touched the lives of so many and his story will continue to do so. He is no longer suffering and is in eternal bliss playing his guitar. How precious to have him in your life. I can not begin to imagine your pain. I pray for you and your family as well as all of H’s friends he has left behind. Hold on to every magical moment you shared with your precious son and share his story. God be with you and bless you.
05/31/2010 at 9:30 pm
Katie,
I am so, so sorry. I knew you back when you were on the febmom group and my oldest is the same age as Henry. I am sure that sharing his story has not been easy but I do believe that doing so will make an impact on other kids. My heart goes out to you and your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 9:30 pm
I’m a friend of Laura Simeon’s and I just want to say how very sorry I am – there are no words.
05/31/2010 at 9:30 pm
Katie, my heart is breaking for you and your family. May your beautiful boy rest in peace, and may his story live on forever in our hearts and in the words we give our children. You’ll be in my thoughts and in my prayers in the coming days. Thank you for your courage, your words and the love so evident in your parenting.
05/31/2010 at 9:30 pm
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Words fail utterly. My heart is breaking for you and your whole family.
05/31/2010 at 9:32 pm
I had a pit in my stomach as I went to your bookmark. My heart aches for you. And I sincerely admire how much sharing H’s story with us will help families in the future deal with their children and drug use. May H be playing guitar in peace tonight.
05/31/2010 at 9:35 pm
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. Know you are not alone in your grief.
05/31/2010 at 9:35 pm
Oh, mama. Hearts across the world are breaking with yours. So much love is coming your way tonight. I know that Henry is playing his guitar – and he isn’t hurting anymore.
05/31/2010 at 9:37 pm
Katie, I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
Hearts across the world are breaking with yours. So much love is coming your way tonight. I know this – he isn’t hurting anymore.
05/31/2010 at 9:40 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I have two sons, and I can’t imagine what you are going through. My thoughts are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:40 pm
katie,
you are the epitome of motherly love, compassion, and strength–a woman whose words have always had a far-reaching effect, but never more so than in the past few weeks. thousands of people have waited with bated breath for your every post, most of us crying, hoping, and praying right along side of you, as you continued to bravely relate this tragic story. in so doing, you’ve saved lives thanks to the awareness that you have selflessly provided.
may God find the perfect path of healing for you and your family during this unfathomable time.
you’re a hero to me, katie.
with love, gratitude, and respect,
jco
05/31/2010 at 9:41 pm
Katie -
Tonight,we watched a beautiful sunset on the lake and my 13 year old, who has read your blog, told me that she was watching Henry’s soul. Heart breaking for you… Your new life begins now, but never without Henry…
Love to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:41 pm
My heart aches for you tonight. Please know that you are an incredible mother and Henry had an incredible family. He knew love. praying for you tonight and in the days to come.
05/31/2010 at 9:41 pm
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. You are a very brave woman for sharing this private hell with so many other readers. I hope that you can find solace in knowing that your sons story has helped others. My sincerest apologies.
05/31/2010 at 9:42 pm
I am so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:42 pm
To your entire family, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss. A mother should never have to lose one of her children.
05/31/2010 at 9:42 pm
Katie. I have no words. I am so very, very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 9:44 pm
I’m so sorry – he is so achingly beautiful…his departure from this world leaves a hole in many hearts. I have followed your blog and books on and off for years, but of everything this will stay with me forever… may Henry’s tragedy inspire thousands upon thousands to love their children fiercely and take drug use seriously. wishing you and your family peace and healing as you release Henry now….
05/31/2010 at 9:44 pm
ah. my heart dropped to hear the news. you have been in my thoughts constantly and will continue to be. thanks to you, his story has touched and influenced so many people and lives in ways you will probably never fully realize. he sure seemed like a neat kid. much love to you.
05/31/2010 at 9:44 pm
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:47 pm
I am so so sorry, Katie. My thoughts are with you.
05/31/2010 at 9:47 pm
I only learned of all of this today, and I’ve been reading and reading through all you’ve written and my heart is broken for you.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Henry is beautiful.
05/31/2010 at 9:48 pm
I am so so terribly sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 9:48 pm
Katie and family,
I am So unbelievably sorry to hear that Henry passed on. I am in tears thinking of you all. He was a beautiful boy. I hope you are able to find justice and eventually peace. Love and light to each of you.
05/31/2010 at 9:51 pm
My heart is broken for you, Katie, for Henry and your family. Life can be incredibly unfair. I am so very sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:51 pm
So sorry to hear about your loss. I didn’t know you but as a mother we all feel this loss for you. My thoughts are with you and your family and that beautiful boy you lost too soon.
05/31/2010 at 9:53 pm
Such an ache. I am so sorry for all of you, for such a loss. Hang on to each other, and soon welcome another wee one into the world.
05/31/2010 at 9:54 pm
Katie, I am so devastated for you. I’m so, so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 9:54 pm
So so sorry. Heartbreaking news. Such a terrible loss. May you find strength in the days ahead.
05/31/2010 at 9:55 pm
My brother, Kevin, was best friends with Henry all through the years at ESK. They used to have the best time spending the night at my house. Once I even woke up to a battery being pushed up my nose lol. Henry is a great guy and I will definitely miss his smile and sense of humor. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:55 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I read your story about your son on Babble and then on Motherlode. I can’t even begin to imagine what your family is going through. You and your family will be in our prayers.
05/31/2010 at 9:58 pm
I’m another reader who didn’t find your blog until after Henry’s injury. I’m so sorry that this is how this chapter of your story is ending, and thank you for sharing so much about your beautiful son with the world. My thoughts are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 9:59 pm
Katie, I have read your blog for a long time and Cecilia Miller is a dear friend of mine. When she told me of Henry’s assault, our whole family began praying for all of you. We grieve with you and will pray peace over you all.
05/31/2010 at 9:59 pm
Oh, I am so, so sorry. Your family will be in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 10:00 pm
What a hard-fought battle by both of you. I’m so sorry it turned out the way it did. Know you are all in my prayers. You are not alone in this.
05/31/2010 at 10:00 pm
I am so, so sorry. He was such a beautiful boy. I hope that he is finally at peace.
05/31/2010 at 10:02 pm
God bless and keep you. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 10:03 pm
I’m so sorry to hear this. May his memory be a blessing.
05/31/2010 at 10:03 pm
sending so much love to you and your family right now.
05/31/2010 at 10:04 pm
No parent should have to bury their child. Katie, my heart goes out to you and your family. May you find peace in knowing Henry’s story will help others.
05/31/2010 at 10:04 pm
So, so, so very sorry for your loss of your beloved son. Thank you for sharing Henry with the rest of us, so that we can be more open in talking with our children, friends, and other loved ones about drug use and addiction. His story has touched many, including me.
05/31/2010 at 10:05 pm
There are no words to express the sorrow that Henry’s passing leaves behind. He has touched so many that never knew him in life through his story. I am praying for your family.
Lori
05/31/2010 at 10:05 pm
I am sorry for your loss. {{{HUGS}}}
05/31/2010 at 10:09 pm
Oh no. Oh, I am so so sorry. I’ve been watching this quietly from afar and rooting for you. My heart ached for you, knowing how hard it must be (and yet of course not having any IDEA how hard it really was), but it never, ever occurred to me that he would not pull through. I cannot even imagine the depth of your devastation and grief. I wish there was something I could do to relieve your pain even for a moment, but all I can do is again say how very sorry I am.
05/31/2010 at 10:09 pm
I am so sorry. So, so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 10:10 pm
I am incredibly saddened for you and your family. Be kind to yourself, sweetie, in the coming days. You have a little life inside of you that needs her Mommy to be mindful of what her body needs. May Henry now rest in peace. Free of his demons and pain. Blessings to you.
05/31/2010 at 10:10 pm
This is my first time here and I’m sorry it’s under these circumstances. I hurt for your loss. I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 10:10 pm
So sorry to get this news about your beautiful boy. We carry you and your family in our hearts during this devastating time.
05/31/2010 at 10:11 pm
I cannot begin to express the understanging of loss and futility at trying to put into words what I feel for you and your family. You have touched so many lives that I hope they can hold you up and support you in this time. Our prayers are with you in this time and I’m so sorry that Henry is gone from you so soon.
05/31/2010 at 10:12 pm
I am a single mother to two beautiful children living in Victoria, Australia and I am also a recovering drug addict. I stumbled across your journey in recent weeks. Please know that our thoughts & prayers are with you through this sad & painful time. You, Kate, are an inspiration to all the mothers in this world. You are incredible. Stay strong. x
05/31/2010 at 10:13 pm
my heart is broken for you. i’m so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 10:13 pm
Another reader who is praying for you, Henry and the rest of your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:14 pm
Katie–
I am so deeply deeply sorry for your loss.
I thank you for sharing your family with us.
I wish that I had words that could comfort you but I know they don’t exist.
You, and your family, are in my thoughts, in my heart and in my soul. Henry, and his beautiful soul, will not be forgotten.
Wishing you a path toward peace and healing—
marlowe
05/31/2010 at 10:15 pm
There are absolutely no words that can help. We don’t know each other and I’ve never met your son, but if there is even a shred of truth to the statement that sorrows are easier shared, than please know that my heart is aching for you and I have shed tears for you and Henry and your family tonight. With all my heart I wish you peace and solace.
05/31/2010 at 10:17 pm
Katie, you were so brave to share your experience this way, and YOU AND HENRY HAVE CHANGED LIVES AS A RESULT. You have. I know that’s probably not a comfort at all to you right now, but maybe someday it will help. For now, I hope you feel surrounded by people who love you and loved Henry. May you feel lifted up and sustained during the difficult days ahead.
05/31/2010 at 10:18 pm
I’m sorry for your loss. I have been following for the past couple weeks and have been agonizing alongside you and your family. Continued prayers.
05/31/2010 at 10:19 pm
yet another whom has admired your work for years. I am so sorry for your loss. My oldest son & your Henry are not only the same age, but have similar struggles…I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now, but I can say that it is a very real & daily fear of my own. My deepest condolences to you & your family. RIP Henry.
05/31/2010 at 10:21 pm
I have been following your son’s story since reading about you both on the Motherlode site. Your son was beautiful. There are no words to express how sorry I am.
05/31/2010 at 10:22 pm
Good lord but he is beautiful. I’m so sorry for the loss and for what he and you have suffered. I’m a college counselor and so many young ones are in my rooms and in my office, figuring out who they are. They have so much yet to understand and navigate, it’s overwhelming. I wish I could give them all magic wands, but I can’t.
Much love and healing to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:22 pm
So very very unfair. My heart breaks for you & for your beautiful boy and all his siblings. Thank you for sharing this most intimate heartbreaking moment with us. May you know God’s grace & mercy in the coming days as you try and make sense of this profound loss.
05/31/2010 at 10:29 pm
Katie, thank you for sharing your life and your loss with us. I hope I can learn something from it, as I have learned so much from you over the years. There are no words to make the pain of this loss go away. My prayers for rest for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:29 pm
I saw this on a friend’s FB post. Kristen Mobley — she had been asking everyone for prayers since it happened. I asked my son, Denzel, who graduated from West a week ago if he knew your son and he said “Oh Yes! Gran!” And I told him what I had read. He had already learned of your family’s sad news through the other kids. We then launched into a discussion about drugs and friends and what can happen and peer pressure and evil people who may want to do you harm. He said, “Mom do you think I’ll hear about other people passing?” I told him yes, most likely a car accident or something similar. He then described reports of another kid’s accident.
I know you have such sorrow and I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose a child. But I want to let you know that, if anything, this will make parents more mindful of their children’s activities, of having those difficult talks about drugs and peer pressure and bad people who may want to do you in — who don’t have your best intentions at heart.
I hope the investigators find out who was involved in this tragedy with your son – how he got the drugs – who beat him and who was involved. But I know you won’t let up until you at least have more information about how this all happened. Somebody out there knows something, knows more than what they are telling and they need to come forward so this doesn’t happen again.
Prayers for your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:32 pm
I am so, so sorry. He was a beautiful boy, and as I struggle to raise my own son, I will remember yours.
05/31/2010 at 10:33 pm
katie, i’ve followed your blog for over a year now and i am so sorry to hear of henry’s death. i don’t know you personally and am not yet a mother; i can only imagine how you and your beautiful family must feel tonight. i know that your words about henry have touched so many people already, and that they will continue to do so. my deepest condolences.
05/31/2010 at 10:34 pm
I found your blog only a few days ago. My daughter and I have prayed often for your family. We are so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. We can’t imagine the pain. We continue to pray for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:38 pm
I am so very very sorry to hear of the death of your beautiful son. You are both a brave and beautiful writer. Although I am sure it does not lessen your pain, I hope that you can gain strength from the knowledge that your willingness to share this tragedy will likely help save another teen’s life.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story.
You and your family will remain in my thoughts….
05/31/2010 at 10:39 pm
I’m a long-time reader and I’m so shocked and horrified. How could this happen? How can this be true? My heart stopped for a moment when I read that Henry had passed. It seems so unreal. I can’t imagine how this will change your life. But I agree with the others, his death will not be in vain. My thoughts are with you and your family. Please take care of yourself as you grieve.
05/31/2010 at 10:40 pm
I am sorry for your loss and the loss felt by all who knew your dear beloved H.
05/31/2010 at 10:41 pm
I am so, so, so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Henry was a beautiful boy and I will always remember him.
05/31/2010 at 10:41 pm
My most heartfelt condolences.
05/31/2010 at 10:41 pm
Katie – I’m a new mother who lives just down the street from you (Kenyon Ave). I’ve been following your story and keeping your beautiful son, you, and your family in my thoughts for the past month. I’m so so so sorry to read this heartbreaking news. Peace and healing to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:43 pm
Katie, mothers’ hearts are breaking around the world today, faint echos of your unfathomable loss.
05/31/2010 at 10:47 pm
Katie: Oh no! I am so sorry! Henry’s life wasn’t in vain. I had H’s picture up on my screen so I could see his beauty. My boys ages 11 and 9 asked who he was. I told them your story you have shared about Henry and what happened. It will change how I respond to drugs and how I educate my children in the future. You are in my prayers!
05/31/2010 at 10:49 pm
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. My heart aches for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 10:52 pm
A fan of yours for years.
I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and all who knew and loved Henry.
05/31/2010 at 10:52 pm
Dear Katie,
I am so so sorry. Much love to you and your family.
Lori
05/31/2010 at 10:53 pm
I’m so sorry about H. So sorry.
05/31/2010 at 10:56 pm
I don’t know what to say. I am just so terribly sorry and sad for your loss. I will be thinking of you.
05/31/2010 at 10:57 pm
Oh, Katie.
How sorry I am to hear this. Your story has touched and taught many people, but not at the cost of Henry — because he was priceless.
God’s peace, and healing, and love be with you and yours.
05/31/2010 at 10:58 pm
Heart-breaking to read your post. So terribly terribly sorry for your loss. Know that you and all of the members of your beautiful family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Know too, that your brave decision to share Henry’s condition with the world has and will affect my parenting, as it has affected countless others.
05/31/2010 at 10:59 pm
My heart weeps for you, your family and your son.
05/31/2010 at 11:01 pm
Oh my gosh! My heart is breaking for you and your family. I am so sorry that you are going through this!
05/31/2010 at 11:02 pm
I’m so sorry and have no wise words to share but just know there are many people praying for your family tonight.
05/31/2010 at 11:03 pm
I’m so very, very sorry. Somewhere Henry is playing his guitar and is making the most beautiful music imaginable.
05/31/2010 at 11:04 pm
I am so so sorry Katie.
05/31/2010 at 11:04 pm
I am so SO sorry for your loss
05/31/2010 at 11:05 pm
Katie, I just told William and Lorelei about Henry–they knew that he was very sick and in the hospital, and what had happened to him–and they both promised they would never use drugs. You know how little they are, and I would never have thought to start talking about this so soon, except for you and Henry. Thank you for helping others even through your own terrible suffering. God bless you.
05/31/2010 at 11:06 pm
Oh no. My heart goes out to you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 11:08 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 11:08 pm
Katie, I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 11:09 pm
How can this have happened?
take care of yourself.
05/31/2010 at 11:09 pm
My god, Katie, I’m so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 11:10 pm
I’m so deeply sorry to hear this news. My thoughts are with you and your friends & family.
05/31/2010 at 11:11 pm
My heart is breaking for you and your family right now. I cannot imagine the pain that you feel. You and your family are in my hearts. I know that Henry is at peace.
05/31/2010 at 11:11 pm
Katie,
I can’t even begin to tell you how sorry I am for Henry’s passing, I only hope that the comfort you have brought to your readers over the years is brought back to you and Henry’s family. I am thinking of you here; please take care of yourself.
05/31/2010 at 11:11 pm
I am just so sorry. I met both you and Henry many years ago while working at the John Tarleton home. We had a mutual friend in common. It was only a brief meeting, but I remember Henry well. He was adorable and just so clearly loved. Thank you for sharing his story with us. I will continue to pray for your family during this terrible time.
05/31/2010 at 11:11 pm
I am so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:12 pm
When I woke up this morning, the first thing I did was checking your blog to find out about Henry’s condition. And now I’m crying and my heart goes out to you and your family. I am so so sorry, Katie.
05/31/2010 at 11:13 pm
My heart breaks for you and your family. The loss of this beautiful boy and his talents will leave a hole in this world. I’m new to the world of motherhood, but please, please know that your story and H’s life has influenced the way I will parent my children. And I have, when you written to, hugged my babies tightly and treasured the precious moments I have with them. I’m sending you the same hugs over cyberspace.
05/31/2010 at 11:15 pm
I am so sorry for your unbearable loss and am keeping you close in thought.
05/31/2010 at 11:15 pm
Katie, E, J, C, and all of your family. My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:18 pm
Wishing you peace, strength and love at this awful time to you and all who knew and loved Henry.
05/31/2010 at 11:18 pm
Although we are strangers, as a mother, my heart is aching for you and your family.
May God give you comfort.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:19 pm
The greatest loss of a mother is to lose her child.
My son is the same age as H. He is into drugs and I have been sharing this story with him. He thinks he is invincible and this could not happen to him. We know better. Drugs are worse than Hell itself.
I HATE drugs so much. They do kill.
I ache for you soooo much. I’m so sad for you and the grief you will suffer through. You’ll heal but your heart will always have an empty hole for your son.
05/31/2010 at 11:19 pm
Katie,
Our prayers go out to you and your family. We are so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:20 pm
Holding you in the light. Wishing there were words to convey the depth of my sorrow for your family. I’m also thinking of your July baby and what a gift your words have given her–someday she will know H through your eloquent words and brave writing even in the face of this ultimate test.
05/31/2010 at 11:21 pm
Katie,
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. My heart breaks for you and your family. Sending love and prayers to you tonight. Henry will not be forgotten.
05/31/2010 at 11:22 pm
I am so sorry.
05/31/2010 at 11:25 pm
There’s nothing to say, except that I’m so very, deeply sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:25 pm
I am so very sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:26 pm
Katie, so sad and sorry for you, your family, and Henry.
05/31/2010 at 11:26 pm
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I am in tears, so I cannot even imagine what you and your family are going through. I commented on your blog last night, knowing that Henry was struggling more than usual, but I didn’t expect to hear that he had passed away today. It is such a terrible tragedy on so many levels–a nightmare. I’ll continue to think about you and your family many, many hours of each day.
05/31/2010 at 11:27 pm
What a beautiful boy. Katie, I have followed your story for the last month or so ever since I saw a link to it on a friend’s FB page. I am so sorry for your loss. You are very brave for opening up and sharing Henry’s story with us. As the parent of 3 teenagers, I am indebted to you. I hurt for you and will keep you all in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 11:29 pm
Katie,
I’ve been an avid reader for some time now, and have been checking your blog daily since I learned of H’s terrible situation. Your honest and thoughtful posts on dealing with grief and the worst possible scenario have helped me think a lot about my own feelings regarding the loss of my parents. I checked your blog tonight, then checked it again just an hour or two later to see if there were any updates, then saw the post about your son’s passing. I’m so sorry to hear this and unfortunately have some sense of what you are going through right now. My heart really goes out to you and I will be thinking of you often in the coming weeks. You and your family deserve so much better.
05/31/2010 at 11:29 pm
You and your family are in my prayers. I truly am sorry, my heart goes out to you.
05/31/2010 at 11:31 pm
I dont know you, but I am sad for you and your family. God bless you all. Im so sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful boy!
05/31/2010 at 11:33 pm
What a beautiful boy – how could he possibly be gone? What a horrible tragedy. I heard about it on Twitter. My condolences to your entire family.
05/31/2010 at 11:34 pm
Oh Katie. I am so sad about Henry. My love to you and your family. Henry’s story will make an important difference in many lives.
05/31/2010 at 11:35 pm
So very sorry for your unimaginable loss. Wishing strength for you.
05/31/2010 at 11:38 pm
My heart is broken for you and your family. So very sorry.
05/31/2010 at 11:38 pm
My deepest condolences. I’m so terribly sorry for your tragic loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:38 pm
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son.
05/31/2010 at 11:39 pm
sincere condolences from another one who has long appreciated your writing. peace to you.
05/31/2010 at 11:40 pm
Words are inadequate. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. May you find the strength to get through this terrible time from the support of family, friends, and even strangers responding to your so very compelling blog.
05/31/2010 at 11:41 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. May you find peace.
05/31/2010 at 11:43 pm
As many have said before, there are no words that I can offer that could possibly help. You are so courageous and brave for telling your beautiful Henry’s story. My heart goes out to you and your family. Wishing you solace.
05/31/2010 at 11:43 pm
I’m so sorry; you and your family are in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 11:43 pm
Katie, I am very sorry to hear the news. I am praying for you and your family.
05/31/2010 at 11:47 pm
Katie, I am so sorry for your great loss. I’m s FebMom from way back, and also have a son born the same year as Henry. Your experience is that much more sobering to me. I keep looking at the recent picture of Henry with his guitar – it is unbelievable. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 11:49 pm
Dear Katie,
You will probably not remember me, but I lived in Knoxville for many years. I was a huge fan of your Attachment Parenting book when my kids were little and I still recommend it to new mamas. I have been anxiously following your blog since I heard through a mutual friend about Henry’s injuries. I am so grateful that you had the courage to share your family’s story with all of us. I am forever changed by it.
But I imagine that is of little consequence to you at this time. My heart aches so for you and your family! What unimaginable sorrow! I am holding you in the light and wishing that in time, the deep peace of the sea will wash over you and you will be comforted by the happy memories of your beautiful boy.
Anne Marie
05/31/2010 at 11:50 pm
Much love and heartfelt condolences to you and your family during this difficult time. You are all in my prayers.
05/31/2010 at 11:52 pm
I have a 22 year old son who lost his way six years ago, though not to drugs. I know the constant heartache of doing your best, loving your best, and yet being powerless to save them. I’m so sorry for your loss.
05/31/2010 at 11:55 pm
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I have my own Henry, and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
05/31/2010 at 11:57 pm
Katie,
My husband, Thomas, and I went to college with Jon and were friends with him during our 4 years together. We have two children, our oldest a boy. My heart is utterly broken for you. H was deeply beautiful, and his pictures are so full of life and light. You have our prayers and love.
Katy Tarter German
05/31/2010 at 11:58 pm
I am a new reader. Sorry for the loss you and your family is experiencing. Thank you for your posts. You will be in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 12:02 am
My sincere condolences. Your family is in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 12:03 am
“Goodnight my angel, now it’s time to sleep
And still so many things I want to say
Remember all the songs you sang for me
When we went sailing on an Emerald Bay
And like a boat out on the ocean
I’m rocking you to sleep
The water’s dark and deep inside this ancient heart
You’ll always be a part of me”
-Billy Joel
06/01/2010 at 12:04 am
Katie and family,
I am so so sorry for your loss. I have been following your blog since I found out about Henry’s story on facebook. My heart is breaking for you and your entire family right now. There are not enough words to express my deepest condolences to you and your family. Please know that you have touched the lives of many, many people by sharing H’s story. Thank you for being so brave and honest. Sending love and prayers to you and your entire family…..
06/01/2010 at 12:07 am
I cannot begin to imagine what your family is going through right now. I just sat my two teen boys down and had a much more serious talk about drugs and addiction than we’d ever had previously. I told them Henry’s story and it’s not one they’re likely to forget, Little comfort, I know, but it’s something.
May Henry’s memory be a blessing and may your family find comfort and peace.
06/01/2010 at 12:11 am
I am so, so sorry. His story will change lives. It already has. Praying earnestly for your comfort in this time of such sorrow. Much love to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 12:12 am
I am sending you and your family my deepest condolences. I am so sorry for your loss. It is a thing beyond words, but wanted to let you know I am among the many thinking of you.
06/01/2010 at 12:14 am
they left me
with your shadow,
saying things like
Life is not fair
& i believed them
for a long time.
but today,
i remembered
the way you laughed
& the heat
of your hand
in mine
& i knew that
life is more fair
than we can
ever imagine
if
we are there to live it
06/01/2010 at 12:21 am
I am so sorry for this terrible loss. You are so brave, thank you for sharing Henry’s struggle. I am sure it has touched many, and it has made me reconsider my opinions, so thank you again. I wish you and your family strength in this very difficult time. You are all in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 12:21 am
Already it is June, now, and I am reminded of this line from Billy Collins poem “Aristotle”:
This is your first night with her, / your first night without her.
How is it possible that time keeps marching forward?
How surreal to experience this death while life is bounding joyfully (unknowingly) inside you! How impossible this loss, how unimaginable your grief.
My son is 5 months old, but because of Henry, because of your willingness to share your story, I will parent him differently.
My heart aches and sobs for you.
06/01/2010 at 12:26 am
I’m so so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 12:26 am
I’m so sorry. Words fail me. Your family are in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 12:28 am
I want to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. The glory of a teenage boy is something to behold, and Henry casts a more-than-glorious light in all of these photos, Katie.
Your courage in sharing your story will help so many of us now parenting teens to be bold in our consideration of the seriousness of life–drugs, driving, responsible decision-making. It’s all going to be on the table because of your willingness to share with us.
Blessings upon your family. May you have peace in your heart.
06/01/2010 at 12:31 am
My heart is breaking for you and your family, Katie. I am holding my own Henry extra tight. I am so so sorry for what you have lost.
06/01/2010 at 12:33 am
I’m so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 12:34 am
We don’t know each other, but I read of your terrible loss from your friend and my colleague-in-training, Kelly Kilmer Hall. I am holding your whole beautiful and grieving family in the light.
06/01/2010 at 12:52 am
A mutual friend pointed this blog out to me just earlier today. I read through the back posts and I was hoping and hoping it would all be okay and then–this…
god, I can’t even come up with the words. I’m sorry. That’s not enough. it’s all I know. I feel like I can’t breathe, I can’t even imagine how you feel. I’m so so sorry. I was born in 1989. This isn’t supposed to happen to people my age, much less people younger than me. God, I am sorry.
06/01/2010 at 12:54 am
Words cannot express…
Condolences to you and your loved ones.
06/01/2010 at 12:56 am
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son.
06/01/2010 at 1:08 am
I am so sorry. There are no words.
06/01/2010 at 1:10 am
There just aren’t words. “I’m so very sorry” doesn’t seem like enough, but it’s all I have. You don’t know me, but I just came to Henry’s story (via your blog) through Dawn. Like a commenter above said, every mother’s heart is breaking for you with this news . . . but it can’t be anywhere near how much your heart is breaking. You and all of Henry’s loved ones will be in my thoughts and prayers, with love.
06/01/2010 at 1:29 am
Oh, I am so, so sorry. So, so sorry. Thank you for sharing your son’s story. Thank you for fighting for him. Bless you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 1:39 am
Katie – your situation speaks to me in so many ways.
I am a very fortunate survivor of a traumatic brain injury suffered nearly two years ago.
I do know that I felt such love and support from my wife and daughters, as I am certain your son felt from you. From the moment I awoke– I knew they were with me. I remember my youngest daughter sharing a joke with me that we had told each other since she was very small – it warmed my heart and brought tears to my eyes.
What I hope you know is that your son must have felt your abiding love and support as he tried so hard to heal. Through your love, you gave your son the greatest gift one can receive.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 1:41 am
I’m so sorry, my heart is aching for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 1:41 am
I’ve been following your story. Nothing I can say will make you feel better, so I won’t try to say anything grand, just that you’re all in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 1:44 am
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please try to take good care of yourself and get what rest you can over the next few weeks. You must be overwhelmed by the events of the last month or so.
Henry was a beautiful boy.
May God grant you and your family peace.
06/01/2010 at 2:01 am
Dear Katie, I’m so, so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and I’m wishing you all peace in this tragic time. Thank you for sharing his story with us–may it help others in similar situations.
06/01/2010 at 2:02 am
Such a beautiful boy
You words convey so well how much you loved him
Please take care of yourself
*hugs*
06/01/2010 at 2:11 am
oh, I’m so sorry. I’m moved. I’ve “known” you via the blog for some years and have followed your kids’ growing… You’ve always come across as a loving, caring, mom. I am sure Henry knew this.
I’ll be thinking about you all. Take care.
Marta from Lisbon, Portugal
06/01/2010 at 2:22 am
I’m so very sorry, Katie.
06/01/2010 at 2:23 am
There’s nothing that I can do, so I am doing what I know how to do, and please know that you and yours are in my thoughts today, and in my prayers.
This is for your lost little boy:
http://atouchoftuesdayweld.blogspot.com/2010/06/flow-river-flow.html
06/01/2010 at 2:27 am
I don’t know you, you don’t know me, but I just need to say that my heart breaks for you, your family, and Henry’s friends.
-Sara in Alaska
06/01/2010 at 3:30 am
Another mom you don’t know, just dropping by to say I am so sorry, though that is woefully inadequate.
You and your family are in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 3:44 am
I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son.
06/01/2010 at 4:03 am
I’m so sorry, Katie.
06/01/2010 at 4:27 am
I am so sorry for this unimaginable big loss.
06/01/2010 at 4:30 am
My heart is broken for you.
Henry was my grandfather’s name, and the name we plan to give to my son, due in late August. It is such a special name, held by special men.
Your son opened the door for better communication between so many parents and their children. It is no where near the comfort it should be, but I will think of your beautiful boy when I talk again with my daughter (12) in the morning.
I will be vigilant. I will be vigilant for my daughter, for my Henry, and for yours.
I wish that I could ease your pain.
06/01/2010 at 4:37 am
I have only just found you and learned your story. I’m so very very sorry for your loss. I’m praying for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 5:09 am
I am so, so sorry for this loss for you and your family. You’ll all be in my thoughts and prayers.
06/01/2010 at 5:10 am
I am terribly saddened for you and your family. Please accept my condolences for your terrible loss. And know that I have watched, listened, re-evaluated, and learned. Henry’s death is not in vain.
06/01/2010 at 5:10 am
Oh Katie. I’m so very, very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 5:13 am
I am just finding your blog this morning through a prayer request on facebook. It doesn’t seem like enough to say that I am so sorry for your loss…but I’m not sure what the right words would be. I can tell you this: Thank you for sharing Henry’s story with us. I have a 3 year old son that I will hold tighter this morning. I have learned from your story, that I need to prepare myself now for the talks about drugs that we will one day need to have. I pray for your family, and especially you and your little one on the way. I pray that this new life inside you will give you the strength to go on. I pray that Henry’s story changes the lives of others. Thank you, again, for sharing your life with us.
06/01/2010 at 5:14 am
Katie, I am so sorry to hear about Henry’s passing. I’ve been thinking about him, and you, and your family since this all started. May he rest in peace.
06/01/2010 at 5:28 am
I have only just come across your story today and my heart is filled with sadness for you & your family at this very difficult time. Like others have said, saying ‘sorry for your loss’ seems incredibly inadequate, however I am deeply sorry for you and your family. You are a brave and courageous woman, and I have to thank you for sharing your story.
My thoughts are with you
06/01/2010 at 5:47 am
I’m so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 5:54 am
I am so sorry. I’ve just started reading thru H’s story and am stunned. I am so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 6:08 am
Your family is in my prayers! I can’t imagine what you are all feeling right now!
06/01/2010 at 6:17 am
May God grant you peace during this incredibly difficult time. May you be comforted by your memories. I am so sorry. God bless you.
06/01/2010 at 6:20 am
So sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 6:27 am
One of the first things I do in the morning is check in here. I am so sorry. I feel for you and your whole family. Sending love and strength. Wish I could say more and make it better.
06/01/2010 at 6:35 am
i am so deeply sorry for your devastating loss. henry was a beautiful boy in so many ways. i will never stop thinking of him, or you, or your family.
06/01/2010 at 6:44 am
I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 6:49 am
Thank you for sharing your beautiful boy with us. You and your family are in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 6:50 am
I have a 12 year old intense guitar playing son. We talk about drugs and music and musicians and lyrics and peer pressure and impulsivity and ceativity every day. Right now – just on the brink of teenhood, he sees everything in black and white, and “knows” he will “never” make these choices. I will share Henry’s story with him and hope to secure him more days of such certainty until he has all the chords down for sure. I’m so sorry for your loss, terrible loss.
06/01/2010 at 6:52 am
I am so sorry. I will be thinking of you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 6:52 am
Katie, I am sorry. My prayers are with your family. I am particularly thinking of J and E today. As they begin to heal, they may be able to turn their loss into something very valuable for our community. I hope they can, and I will help if I can.
06/01/2010 at 6:57 am
What a stunningly beautiful child. I’m so sorry for your loss – and ours.
06/01/2010 at 7:00 am
Thoughts and prayers going out to your family, Katie. I have no words.
06/01/2010 at 7:01 am
I am so hugely sorry for your loss. My heart is with you and your family on this sad day.
06/01/2010 at 7:03 am
I do not know you personally, but have been following your story after a FB post from a dear mutual friend of ours. As I sit here again tears rolling down my cheeks, I want you to know, mother to mother, that I am holding you close and praying that some how you are able to continue to breathe. May your story help others who are struggling with their child’s addictions. And may your story also remind us of how much we should cherish every single day with have with those we love, because no one is guaranteed tomorrow.
06/01/2010 at 7:07 am
My God, what a beautiful boy.
I am so sorry for your loss. So, so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 7:11 am
there simply aren’t words. so, so sorry for your family…
06/01/2010 at 7:15 am
Wishing eternal rest and never-ending light for you son. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 7:16 am
Deepest condolences to your entire family. I have been hoping for a miracle.
06/01/2010 at 7:16 am
I’m so, so sad at the loss to Henry’s entire family. He was and is so well loved and I can’t imagine how much he will be missed. I’m thinking of you and praying for all of you.
06/01/2010 at 7:19 am
Words can’t express…so very sorry.
06/01/2010 at 7:22 am
I am so sorry. I know nothing else to say.
06/01/2010 at 7:23 am
I’m so very sorry. My condolences to your family. May God guide you on this difficult time.
06/01/2010 at 7:24 am
Katie, so very sorry for your loss. Keeping your family in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 7:27 am
Oh, Katie. My heart aches for you and all who knew and loved Henry. I am so terribly terribly sorry for what has happened. I pray you all can find peace and celebrate all he gave you during his short time with you.
06/01/2010 at 7:28 am
My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.
06/01/2010 at 7:28 am
Katie,
I’ve only recently followed your blog. I am a mom to my own Henry and I cannot imagine your devastating loss. My deepest condolences to you and everyone whose life Henry touched. Your sharing of his and your family’s story will surely help others to walk the road you have and help parents make a difference for their kids. As an educator too, I know I will share H’s story in hopes of making a difference. I hope you surround yourself with people who will help you take care of yourself in this time of heartwrenching grief so you might take good care of H’s new sister while she waits to meet the world. I’m sorry he’ll never know her smile or giggle. Hoping you and your family find peace in due time.
JAL
06/01/2010 at 7:30 am
I am so, so sorry…my heart goes out to you.
06/01/2010 at 7:31 am
I am so, so deeply sorry for the loss of your Henry. We will continue to pray for you, Henry, and the rest of your family. Thank you for sharing Henry’s experience and the many photos of your beautiful boy so that we, your readers, could learn. I know that all of us who have read your blog through this horrible experience are sending you love and strenth. I hope you can feel our support and admiration. There is a great deal of addiction in multiple generations of my family, it can happen to any of us.
06/01/2010 at 7:34 am
He is so beautiful, and I am so very sorry. I have a beautiful seventeen-year old stepson, and two young boys. I hope they get through teen/adulthood safely …. both my husband and I are recovering drug addicts, so I worry about it a lot.
I’ve been reading here only for a few weeks, willing you on, hoping your beautiful son would be ok.
Please know that I’m abiding with you tonight. And I’ll be lighting a candle for you and your family, praying that you are given moments of peace and light.
Much love.
06/01/2010 at 7:36 am
I’m so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 7:38 am
Holding you, your family and Henry in the light.
06/01/2010 at 7:38 am
Because of you and H, I sat down my 12/13 year old and had a good talk about drugs and the danger. Thank you for sharing your story. My 13 daughter and I have been praying for your family and will continue to do so.
06/01/2010 at 7:40 am
I’m so so very sorry for your loss. May Gd comfort you and all those who have a Henry shaped hole in their lives.
06/01/2010 at 7:41 am
OMG I’m so sorry for your loss.
My he rest in peace
06/01/2010 at 7:42 am
I’m so terribly sorry on the loss of your son Henry. Sending you peace, love and hope as you navigate this heartbreaking loss.
06/01/2010 at 7:45 am
Oh, Katie. This is so terrible. My thoughts are with you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 7:48 am
I am so sorry. You were the first blog I checked this morning. I am so, so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 7:58 am
I am so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
XOXO
06/01/2010 at 8:03 am
Praying for peace for you and your family. I just caught up on your entire story and am having trouble breathing. I have two beautiful boys of my own, 5 and 2. I will always remember your Henry and do everything I can to keep my boys away from drugs. You are a wonderful mother. Thank you for sharing your struggle. I am so very sorry.
06/01/2010 at 8:03 am
I am so very very sorry.
My thoughts are with you and yours.
06/01/2010 at 8:03 am
I’ve been reading your blog for over a year now, and Henry’s story has kept me awake at night. I’m so terribly sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 8:07 am
What a loss. H was a beautiful boy indeed. Please accept my sincerest condolences, Katie.
06/01/2010 at 8:10 am
K- I am filled with sorrow for you and your family. Even a wonderful beautiful boy like Henry with all the love and support a family can give can be overcome by the evil of the world. I know, because I did not always listen, I watched my brother not always listen- and I was terrified. We were both good kids as Henry was. We are good adults now. But I wish I could take back the sleepless nights for my mother. I wish the universe would take it all back for you. May those who have done this to your undeserving son and your family be brought to justice. May Henry rest in peace. May your family live happy, loved, and healthy lives. My heart goes out to you.
06/01/2010 at 8:11 am
Love and prayers from a complete stranger who is heartbroken and in tears right now. I am so very sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 8:12 am
My deepest sympathies. I read about you on the Motherlode blog, and I’ve been following H’s story ever since. You’ve done so much good by sharing his struggles with us.
Wishing your entire family peace in the difficult time ahead.
06/01/2010 at 8:16 am
Today I hold my children tighter and love them and treasure them all the more in honor of your loss. I wish we all could take some of the pain from you and your family to help you bear this terrible time. I wish you all much love and peace and comfort.
06/01/2010 at 8:19 am
I was pointed here by Suburban Correspondent. I’ve never been here before. But I do have children. I will think about and pray for and puzzle over cry about your loss and for my children. I am so so sorry. Some infinitesimally small fraction of your heartache will be shared by myself and my wife. And thank you for making me think, and be less arrogant, about my own children and what can happen. Agai, I’m sorry.
06/01/2010 at 8:20 am
I am so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 8:21 am
What a beautiful boy. I am so sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart to see this. You and your family are in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 8:23 am
I am so, so sorry for your loss. I was hoping and praying that H’s story would have a much different ending than this. You and your family are in my prayers during this impossibly difficult time.
06/01/2010 at 8:23 am
There are not the words available to express my sorrow for you. Hugs and prayers for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 8:30 am
Please know that many of us are thinking of you and your family and wishing you strength to endure the unendurable. A horrible and tragic loss for the world.
06/01/2010 at 8:34 am
Hey Katie
I found your blog via MissZoot.com I’m sorry that it’s on such rubbish circumstance that I found you.
I am sorry for your lose and send massive hugs to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 8:35 am
I posted a comment last night, but I dreamt of you and have had a lump in my throat all morning, so wanted to add another comment: you are an amazing mama, and a strong strong woman.
I know that the pain is unbearable right now – and it will always hurt, but I hope that you are letting those who love you take care of you so that in turn are able to take care of those who still need you. we’re all sending our love your way.
06/01/2010 at 8:36 am
I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 8:39 am
I am so sorry for your loss. I am not one to comment on the blogs I read regularily, but I could not leave without sending you my thoughts. I wish you and your family peace, please take care of yourself and your family.
I am thinking of you.
06/01/2010 at 8:39 am
I’m devastated to read this. My condolences to the entire family in this horrible time.
06/01/2010 at 8:39 am
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Please know that we will keep you in our prayers and thoughts as we have the last few weeks. I applaud your amazing courage and forthrightness as you have chronicled Henry’s journey. I have been sharing with my 15 and 13 year old sons throughout the whole time as well. So, please know that by sharing this tragedy you WILL be preventing others. Know that he is in a better place and his being will always be with you and surround you. Sending cyber hugs your way. I am so, so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 8:39 am
I’m so very sorry for you all. I was 16 when my 21-year old brother died in an accident, partly brought on by poor choices on his part. I’ve been thinking a lot about J and E through all this, because I know a little bit of what they’ve been experiencing.
H is in heaven now where God wipes every tear from our eyes. RIP.
06/01/2010 at 8:43 am
I am so terribly sorry for your entire family. Your son is a beautiful boy, and the way you wrote about him and fought for him was beautiful as well. I pray your family finds some peace at this horrible time. And thank you for writing about your ordeal so frankly. I’m sure your son is proud of his mama.
06/01/2010 at 8:43 am
My deepest sympathies go out to you and all of H’s family.
06/01/2010 at 8:44 am
Oh Katie. I am so sorry for your loss. Henry’s whole family is in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 8:46 am
I am so sorry. I have been following your story after finding your blog, and hoping for a happy outcome. As a mom of two beautiful boys, my heart aches for you. Your experiences will inform my own discussions about drugs with them. I’m just another stranger deeply affected by your words, but I do want you to know that you and your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
06/01/2010 at 8:46 am
I am so very sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my heart during this difficult time and as you celebrate Henry’s life in the days to come.
06/01/2010 at 8:47 am
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain – there are no words.
06/01/2010 at 8:48 am
I’m so sorry. May your lovely boy rest in peace.
06/01/2010 at 8:54 am
Oh Katie, I was just heartbroken to hear this news. There are just no words. You and yours are surrounded by the love and prayer and good thoughts of countless other mamas — by sharing Henry’s story so many other lives have been touched and changed. Thank you for finding the words to do that. Love and peace to your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:00 am
I can’t even fathom having the words. My heart is broken for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:01 am
So sorry to hear this news. Thanks so much for your bravery to share this story with the world.
06/01/2010 at 9:02 am
I am so very sorry for your family, Katie.
06/01/2010 at 9:02 am
What a beautiful boy. What a horrible loss. I’m so sorry…
06/01/2010 at 9:02 am
I cannot begin to imagine your loss. My heart and head are hurting and my face is wet from tears but I can’t begin to imagine your pain.
I experimented with drugs pretty liberally in highschool (late 70′s) so my thoughts have always been that experimentation is pretty “normal”. We are an AP and unschooling family and you know how you think you’re doing it all “right”? Crossing off all the “laundry list” items, trying to weave that web of safety around the lives of your kids? Well it is a fallacy. It is what it is.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, your pain, your incredibly BEAUTIFUL boy – I don’t imagine the pictures even begin to do justice to his shining soul.
I have shared your story with my 14 and 15yo boys. I will share again when my girls (10 and
hit “that” age. I will not look at teen drug use as “normal experimentation” any more. Your story has made an impact in my parenting and I thank you for it but so wish that there had been no need for your story.
I am so incredibly sorry.
06/01/2010 at 9:03 am
I am so very sorry for your loss, Katie! I cannot begin to fathom what you and the rest of your family is going through but I am sending lots of warm loving thoughts your way.
06/01/2010 at 9:03 am
I am so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 9:04 am
This was the first entry of yours that I read and I instantly went back and read from Day 1 in the hospital til now and am crying with you. I’m so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 9:05 am
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope that in time, you will find peace of heart.
06/01/2010 at 9:06 am
I’m so sorry. Peace to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:07 am
I have been praying for your child since I learned of his situation. I found your blog through Like Merchant’s Ships…I have prayed often for your son, you, and the rest of the family. How heart broken I am to read of his passing. I can only begin to imagine your pain.
I know he is in a place now with no pain or suffering. I know you will be with him again. It will be a long hard road for you but please let the comfort of His love for you remind you that you will be together again.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
06/01/2010 at 9:09 am
My heart goes out to you and all who loved Henry. Your posts have made me think carefully about how I will talk about drugs with my own (still young) children. May peace be with you.
06/01/2010 at 9:10 am
I am so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 9:11 am
I am so sorry for your loss and sad for your beautiful family. As others have said, Henry’s story, and yours, will not be forgotten, at least not by this mother of beautiful boys.
06/01/2010 at 9:12 am
My soul is aching for you. I can’t find any other words of sympathy or encouragement, as reading through this story has stricken me with the depth of your loss and the senselessness of this tragedy.
I pray your voice will be heard in the criminal justice system today. The people who perpetrated this terrible assault should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 9:12 am
My heart goes out to you and your family. My mom, Karin has sent me your updates and I have forwarded them to my church’s prayer chain. It was very hard to update them today. I hope that eventually you will all find peace and most improtantly JUSTICE for Henry. Sending you tons of Love and prayers from Big Sky Country
06/01/2010 at 9:18 am
I can only imagine what you are going through, I am so, so sorry you have lost your dear boy.
06/01/2010 at 9:21 am
I am so deeply sorry, Katie. You are all in my thoughts and prayers as you grieve.
06/01/2010 at 9:23 am
I have looked at these countless times now, and I cry every time, for you, for him, for his siblings and his father and his friends. I have shared his story with my own children and my almost-12 year old teared up himself. I want him to know the gravity of it, what he went through, and what all of you will forever carry with you– this grief, this pain.
You are all on my mind and my heart breaks for you.
06/01/2010 at 9:24 am
I am so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 9:24 am
You, and all of your beautiful children, have been in my prayers these last weeks. I am aching for you and the loss of your amazing son. May God wrap his arms around you through these dark days.
Just so you know, I too shared your son’s picture and story with my own boys (ages 15, 14, 13, 9) and begged them to understand the seriousness of the choices before them.
06/01/2010 at 9:25 am
I am so sorry to hear this latest devastating news. My thoughts will be with you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:25 am
Katie and Family;
I just began reading your blog last week and have shared Henry’s story with my daughters. Henry was a beautiful child and only you know the depth of what a sweet soul he was. In the coming days, I will certainly tell my daughter’s of Henry’s passing and use this as a platform to guard them against further drug use. Experimentation leads to full-blown research at some point and, sadly, the painful end is usually written for them.
I wish for you to have peace in your life right now and know that Henry is at peace after his short life here on earth. He knows he was loved and will carry that on to his journey through eternity, whatever that may be.
You have so much love from everyone who has followed HEnery’s story, your story, and you will never know how much our hearts break for you and how much we will keep you in our thoughts in the coming days when you again welcome a new precious life into this world.
Our hearts are with you and your entire family,
Vicki
06/01/2010 at 9:26 am
Katie – I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart is aching for your family at the loss of such a wonderful boy. Hugs to everyone.
06/01/2010 at 9:27 am
I am so so sorry to hear this terrible news. May you all find peace.
06/01/2010 at 9:29 am
I can’t stop thinking of your family. Your loss has hit deep for many of us. I could barely let go of my own 15 year old Henry this morning. Please know that we are all thinking of you during this terrible time.
06/01/2010 at 9:30 am
Katie, Devastating to hear of your loss, but inspired by the impact your courage is having already. I am talking to my teens about it and will be sharing with other moms, too. His pictures make me cry for all that you and your family have lost. He is a beautiful boy.
Jean in Texas
06/01/2010 at 9:31 am
I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending love and light to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:32 am
My most sincere condolences at the lost of your beautiful son.
06/01/2010 at 9:36 am
Katie, I’ve never met you, but I’ve been really touched by your story. I was still hoping until the last minute. I find it so incredibly unfair that this sweet, beautiful, smart, 18 year-old kid will not even have a second chance.
I can’t imagine the extend of your loss or the state of mind you might be in right now. I don’t know what to do but to offer my most sincere condolences to all the family (special hug to the kids) and send a lot of mental support. Take care. x
06/01/2010 at 9:37 am
Katie-
Aaron Smith is my younger brother, so I remember seeing Henry when they would get together. I’m so sorry for your loss. If Aaron or I can do anything to help you and your family get through this hard time, please let us know. You’re in our thoughts and prayers.
06/01/2010 at 9:38 am
I cannot express how very sorry I am for your loss, you have my deepest sympathies.
06/01/2010 at 9:38 am
I have no words, only tears… My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
06/01/2010 at 9:38 am
My husband’s family has travelled the same road. I am so sorry for your loss. He was so loved.
06/01/2010 at 9:40 am
My sincerest condolences to you and your family. I too have had a child die and know the surreal feeling and utter devastation. In my experience, it never got “better”, just different. It’s almost like you are now on the other side of an invisible wall from the rest of the world’s parents. I was able to find joy again, mostly because of my other child, and also because I most definitely decided to. I did want you to know that your experience with your beautiful son regarding drugs has made me completely rethink how I will handle approaching drugs with my 13 year old and what my response will be if I find out he is “experimenting”. Thank you for “coming out” on this issue. I am so sorry for your pain and the death of your precious child. Take gentle care of yourself and those you love.
06/01/2010 at 9:40 am
I am sincerely sorry that you have lost a piece of your heart, that your children have lost their big brother. I truly hope with all of my heart that you all find your way through this tragedy. I will be thinking of you and wishing you the very best.
06/01/2010 at 9:41 am
My heart breaks for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:41 am
I am so very sorry. I cannot imagine your pain.
06/01/2010 at 9:42 am
Katie,
I do not know you but your story has touched me and I am so very sorry for your loss. I’ve been thinking of you and your family and praying for Henry this last month and I will continue to keep you all in my prayers. I hope that the love and support of all us strangers out here can offer you a small bit of comfort.
06/01/2010 at 9:46 am
I am so sorry for your terrible loss.
06/01/2010 at 9:47 am
I am so sorry for your terrible loss. Addiction is a cruel disease. Love and strength to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:50 am
I am so sorry about your loss, I hope that your son finds peace, and that your family is consoled by the love and memories you have of such a sweet soul.
06/01/2010 at 9:52 am
Oh, Katie. I am so very sorry.
06/01/2010 at 9:55 am
Katie, I pulled you in in my reader this morning hoping to read some good news about how Henry is doing, and I was so saddened to hear that he has passed away. I don’t know what else to say except that I am so so sorry for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:59 am
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I love a boy in foster care who’s made some difficult and hurtful decisions and I keep pulling for him and for H and for all the others out there grappling with danger. I’m not one who comments much, but I’ve been reading and caring and my heart is hurting for you and all those you love.
06/01/2010 at 10:00 am
Oh no–just look at those beautiful pictures of him you posted–what a loss for him, your family, and the world. I am so sorry and I pray for peace and healing for your family, and the arms of God comforting Henry.
06/01/2010 at 10:05 am
Katie, My heart is broken for you. Logan’s heart is broken too, he is taking this really hard. I’m So sorry. I am praying for you and your family. If there is anything I can do
please call me.
Derinda
Logan’s mom
865-300-9098
06/01/2010 at 10:05 am
We will be keeping your family in our deepest thoughts during this time.
06/01/2010 at 10:06 am
I’m an acute care RN who works with the addicted population, and I have a 3 year old absolutely beautiful boy who is the light of my life. I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through, and have gone through. My heart aches for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 10:08 am
I’m sure your loss is incomprehensible and your pain unbearable. You will not let his loss be in vain and that will give you strength. That and your children and your new baby. The Lord does work in mysterious ways… God Bless. You and your family are in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 10:08 am
I was sent here from Zoot’s blog and am so terribly sorry to hear about your dear son’s passing. I know we are strangers and have nothing in common, but I am thinking of you and your family today none-the-less. Sending you peaceful thoughts during this horrible time.
06/01/2010 at 10:11 am
my heart is breaking for you. please know i have learned so much from your writings and whatever criticisms you may have received for telling your story, many, many more people thank you for doing so. I pray you find some peace and enjoy the wonderful memories you have of your beautiful boy.
06/01/2010 at 10:13 am
I am so sorry. I echo what others have said – Henry’s death will not be in vain. Thank you for sharing his story. I have a 10 year old and 8 year old and will think of you and Henry as they grow older and encounter drugs offered to them (as I know they will). Much love to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 10:15 am
I’m so, so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 10:15 am
I do not know you or your family…except thru your blog and from a friend of yours. I have followed your story from beginning to end and I must say you are a wonderful Mommy and Henry was a beautiful child. My heart is absolutely breaking for you and your family. My arms are around your other children and hoping they feel the comfort of all the love that surrounds them. Lots of healing prayers for you, your family and your friends.
Lily Gainesville, FL
06/01/2010 at 10:18 am
Peace to you during this unimaginable time.
06/01/2010 at 10:19 am
An Adonis of the spring, a wisp of warmth alighting the fields, blossoming and burning for all to see, licking the blue sky with the intensity of the sun. Taken by the wild boar, but never lost.
Find peace my friend. Find peace.
06/01/2010 at 10:20 am
I wish I had more than words to offer. Prayers for you and the kids, and H’s other family and friends.
06/01/2010 at 10:27 am
Please know Henry has touched many hearts. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. Prayers rising here for all.
06/01/2010 at 10:30 am
I am SO very sorry for your loss, know that you are loved and have many family and friends thinking of you during this time. My heart aches for you.
06/01/2010 at 10:31 am
Rest now, sweet young boy.
06/01/2010 at 10:33 am
I just heard of you and Henry today, but I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing kid. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story with all of us.
Blessings to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 10:33 am
There are no words except I am sorry. I truly am. I don’t know you or your family, but your blog has lifted my spirits in good times, brought thought-provoking conversations in sad times, and really made me reevaluate my own attitudes toward seemingly casual teenage drug experimentation. Thank you for sharing your story and Henry’s story.
06/01/2010 at 10:36 am
Katie, I don’t know you (although we both wrote for Babble) but I just wanted to say how sorry I am for the loss of Henry. No mother should have to go through this. He was a beautiful, beautiful boy. Your family are all in my prayers today.
06/01/2010 at 10:37 am
I am crying with you.
06/01/2010 at 10:37 am
My heart aches for you. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers during this unspeakably painful time.
06/01/2010 at 10:39 am
I have nothing to add but my sorrow to yours, my thoughts and prayers to all the others for you and your family, and the promise that I will remember his face from these pictures for a long time to come. He was a beautiful boy and I thank you for sharing him with us.
06/01/2010 at 10:43 am
I am so sorry. My heart aches for your family. My most sincere and deepest condolences. Sending you thoughts of love.
06/01/2010 at 10:45 am
So insanely sad. I am sorry.
06/01/2010 at 10:46 am
Nothing we can say will help but know that your loss is felt and wept over all over the world. You’re an inspiration, have helped our parenting journey so much. Your son could not have been loved more, just couldn’t. Thank you for allowing us to send you our thoughts, love and prayers, for you all and for Henry. Memory eternal.
06/01/2010 at 10:48 am
I am so, so sorry. Please accept our love across the miles.
06/01/2010 at 10:50 am
I am so sorry, so so sorry for your loss. I have been reading your work since the old HM days. I am sending love to you, mama. Sending the biggest love.
06/01/2010 at 10:52 am
I am so, so sorry. He was a beautiful person and I hope he’s found peace. My thoughts and prayer are with you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 10:55 am
Just another stranger on the internet telling you that my heart is broken for you. I, like everyone else who reads this, so much wish that there could have been a different ending to Henry’s story.
06/01/2010 at 10:59 am
My heart breaks for your loss, Katie. Please know that you all remain in my prayers.
May Henry’s memory be eternal.
06/01/2010 at 11:09 am
I’ve been following Henry’s story and yours, Katie, like so many here. I’m so so sorry for your loss. What a heart-breaking thing to have to endure. May Henry’s soul, and those of everyone in your family, find peace with what has happened.
06/01/2010 at 11:10 am
So sorry. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this time. Absolutely heartbreaking.
06/01/2010 at 11:11 am
Please accept my condolences for your unthinkable loss.
06/01/2010 at 11:13 am
Oh, your family. I wish you the strength and light to traverse the time ahead. Blessings on that babe inside and on the heads of your entire extended family.
06/01/2010 at 11:17 am
He was so beautiful… I am so, so sorry for your loss, and you are in my thoughts. Beams and beams of loving, warm, soft light to you, to your family, to your soon-to-be-born tiny baby girl.
06/01/2010 at 11:24 am
Deepest sympathies to you & your family.
06/01/2010 at 11:25 am
I’m so sorry….
Hugs
Mary
06/01/2010 at 11:26 am
Katie, please know that my heart breaks for you…this is a familiar ache for me, yet I don’t know the words – if there are any words that will comfort and help ease this pain.
I’m holding you close to my heart and thoughts and sending you blessings of light and peace during such a wretched time.
06/01/2010 at 1:19 pm
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. there are no words. just sending love and peace to your family.
06/01/2010 at 1:32 pm
I’m so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 1:39 pm
I am so very sorry for the pain you and your family are suffering.
I have three nephews who are the center of my life…and your story will help me be an even better Auntie to them.
Thank you for sharing in the midst of your pain. I hope you all find peace (and justice).
06/01/2010 at 2:39 pm
Oh Katie, I am so sorry… I am sending lots of blessings to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 2:39 pm
I have been following your blog for the last two weeks. I am a former student of a certain Bradley instructor who knows and loves your family so much. I know we’ve never met, but I couldn’t help but to just express my condolences for you and your family. Rest in peace, sweet boy.
06/01/2010 at 2:42 pm
You and your family are in my prayers and thoughts. My heart is just aching for you. Thank you for sharing your journey, it will definitely stay with me as I raise my 2 and 4 year-old boys. Much love and peace to you all.
06/01/2010 at 2:42 pm
I am so very sorry. Please know that H’s life has touched so many… I read your words over the past weeks, and I was so hoping and praying for a different result for your beautiful boy…. the stories you have shared will stay with me always and I will raise my son just a little bit different after reading about your family.
I know that no words will bring H back or bring you any soils, so I simply offer you my deepest condolences, please know that you do not mourn for H alone, as the rest of us (people throughout the entire world) are mourning for him with you as well.
06/01/2010 at 3:29 pm
My most sincere condolences. I am saddened and can’t believe this happened. I hope you have all the time and support you need to grieve and please remember to eat well for your new precious baby
06/01/2010 at 3:29 pm
I am so, very sorry.
06/01/2010 at 3:36 pm
Katie, I’m so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 3:38 pm
I can’t express my sorrow for you and your family. Every one of you is in our thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 3:47 pm
Dearest Katie,
I can’t claim that I’ve followed your blog for years or even weeks. I saw a link on Heather Armstrong’s Twitter page, and I read every single entry on your blog from the time of your dear son’s hospitalization. My heart is with you and your family during this trying time. I wish you nothing but peace. xoxo
06/01/2010 at 3:48 pm
Deepest sympathies, such tragedy.
06/01/2010 at 3:56 pm
Aching for your entire family.
Deepest, deepest sympathies.
06/01/2010 at 4:10 pm
Thinking of you and yours and holding you close to my heart during these long days ahead…
06/01/2010 at 4:14 pm
I’m sorry to hear about your loss.
06/01/2010 at 4:14 pm
My heart goes out to your family, and you will continue to be in my thoughts. Thank you for your pressing reminders to make me find a way to let my 4 year old know how dangerous drugs are. I will not wait until she’s ‘old enough’ to begin my campaign to save her life.
06/01/2010 at 4:14 pm
Katie,
You are beginning the longest journey of your life. It will be hard. You will cry. Sometimes you will not cry and think you should. You will be angry. You will be numb. It won’t end until you do. Because mourning the loss of your child is complicated. It’s not like other deaths. I don’t know you. I do know this journey. It’s my journey too. So, I’m just dropping a line to tell you that you can survive this. You won’t be the same. It’s hard. But you will eventually be somebody different, and that somebody will be fine. The dance of grief will go on, but you’ll manage every turn in the waltz somehow and keep Henry in your heart. I wish you well. May Providence smile on you again, and may you find blessings and joy in your family.
06/01/2010 at 4:21 pm
I am so sorry for this tragic loss. No words can convey how I feel right now other than to say that your family is in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 4:22 pm
Katie, I have just read through the entire blog of the hellish journey you’ve been through and am aching for you. That beloved child, the prince of Bell Buckle, who we met once a year at Hank and Sue’s annual picnic, who played with my own boy, who radiated joy and power and wore the mantle of so much love from everyone in his family and everyone who knew them. You are brave to be blogging this, brave to face your pain and loss. I am praying for you, knowing you will never get over it, but maybe in time the torture will let up.
Love to you all
06/01/2010 at 4:28 pm
I am SO SORRY. This is every mother’s nightmare. I am thinking about you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 4:40 pm
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our hearts.
God bless.
06/01/2010 at 4:41 pm
Katie, I am so sorry. Your family’s story has touched many other families, mine included. Many condolences, many prayers.
06/01/2010 at 4:46 pm
It was like a punch in the stomach to see your latest post, and I only know you from this blog. Know that he is finally at peace. Your family is in my thoughts.
06/01/2010 at 4:48 pm
I was touched by your story, and so sorry for your loss. The comments alone tell the story of a beautiful mom & son… and to read through them, and feel the caring for you & yours… well, it shows the best side of this blogging thing. Sincere well wishes, Bethany
06/01/2010 at 4:51 pm
I am so sorry for your loss, Katie. Never think of yourself as a bad mother because you are not. My condolences to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 5:05 pm
katie, i’m so so sorry for your loss. i’m thinking of you & your family today. i lost my 30 year old cousin, sean, last september to drug addiction. it’s confounding. unimaginable. hard. my love to you.
06/01/2010 at 5:07 pm
I’m so very sorry for your loss. We lost our child in January and it’s unimaginably hard. My heart aches for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 5:08 pm
I’m hoping that there is truth to the whole “strength in numbers” thing, and that all of our number–all of us mourning with you–can give you and yours a little bit more strength to make it through.
I am so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 5:08 pm
I can’t say anything to make you feel better, but goddamnit, I wish I could. I’m so very sorry for your devastating loss.
06/01/2010 at 5:09 pm
We are so sorry for you loss. I have been reading for the last month and I have a very large saddness today. I know there will be better days soon. I am sure H is in a special place now. Our condolences to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 5:18 pm
Oh I am so sorry for your loss. This weekend has been sad for many, we lost a good friend and AA fellow here to his long struggle with cancer. Your son was a beautiful boy, your family is in my prayers, I pray that those who did this to him are found and held responsible if it is God’s will. Again, so sorry and God bless you.
06/01/2010 at 5:24 pm
Katie,
Although I never actually met Henry, I will never forget him. I have read your blog in its entirety and have looked at every wonderful picture I could find of him and your family. Addiction is a scary and cruel disease, and I thank you for so bravely and candidly “coming out” about something that so many don’t want to face. Henry will not die in vain. I know I will definitely talk to my own 13 year old son tonight with H in my heart and on my mind. May he rest in peace now and may you soon find your own peace with the beautiful memories you have of him in your heart. My deepest sympathies to you and your family…and to that little girl on her way. Sending you love and strength from Nashville.
06/01/2010 at 5:24 pm
I am so sorry Katie. This is such terrible news. I hope he is now at peace. Sending you and your family lots of love and light in a dark time. *HUGS*
06/01/2010 at 5:31 pm
I am so so so sorry. My brother died 18 years ago, and I watched my mother go through the loss of a child. I know that words cannot express the pain you feel right now. And me telling you it will get better doesn’t mean anything. But it will. For now, take it day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment, breath by breath.
06/01/2010 at 5:41 pm
Mothers’ hearts all over the world are breaking for you.
06/01/2010 at 5:44 pm
…Katie, I am so deeply sorry for you and your family.
Praying for strength, serenity, and grace to cover you.
Love,
Rebecca
06/01/2010 at 6:01 pm
I am so sorry. You all are in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 6:05 pm
Dear Katie and family, your story has filled me with grief, thinking the unthinkable. I’m so grateful that you’ve had the courage to share this most horrible journey through the darkness with all of us so that lives can be saved. Thank you. Henry was such a beautiful boy and I know that his days of light have far outnumbered his days of addiction. You did everything right, Katie.
06/01/2010 at 6:13 pm
So very sorry.
06/01/2010 at 6:19 pm
I’m so, so sorry. What a beautiful boy, and a terrible loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 6:27 pm
I’m so so sorry to hear this sad news. My deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.
06/01/2010 at 6:35 pm
I just saw a random tweet about you and had a really bad feeling. I was afraid to link to your site.
I am so so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family. Please know that there are a ton of us thinking about you.
06/01/2010 at 6:36 pm
the worst. thank you for sharing – everything – and all the best/well/positive wishes in the world for the pain and terrible, horrible feelings to subside before your new baby’s birthday.
06/01/2010 at 6:47 pm
I am so deeply sorry. Your son is beautiful.
06/01/2010 at 7:02 pm
I just need to reach out along with the countless others and tell you that I am mourning with you, in my small anonymous way. You are the essence of motherhood and Henry was a lucky beautiful boy to have you. I am so so sorry for the unbearable pain. Be well and take care of yourself. I don’t pray a lot but I am praying tonight for you and Henry and your family.
06/01/2010 at 7:02 pm
I only know your story from the blog, but my heart aches for you and your family at this difficult, painful time. There are no words, just know that because you have bravely shared Henry’s story, you are opening a dialogue about drugs and addiction. I am a child and family therapist and promise to use this tragedy to open the dialogue with the families that I work with. I can not take away your pain, I wish I could, but know that you are not alone, you are in the hearts of many and Henry’s memory will live on forever.
Megan from Toronto, Canada
06/01/2010 at 7:15 pm
Hi-
I’ve followed your blogs off and on since I had my only child all most two years ago – mostly through babble. In reading your blogs I had a feeling that Henry and my sister had a lot of the same bad habits. Everything that you’ve written about Henry could so be my sister – honestly why it hasn’t been yet is a suprise to me – I just logged in to your site after work and am so sad for you and your family. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but do know from experience that it is a sickness, and Henry is in a better place now. Also, please know that even though I’m an adult & a mother, and have been dealing with this with my sister since she was 13, Henry’s story drives home how important it is to educate kids about drug abuse, more importantly my own daughter.
I will say a prayer for all of you ……
Peace
06/01/2010 at 7:15 pm
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Understand that your being so open about Henry’s illness and death will help so many families. Thank you. I am so sorry.
06/01/2010 at 7:37 pm
Katie, thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I don’t know you and found out about your blog from a friend. I am so sorry for your tragic, and above all senseless, loss of Henry.
Drugs have been a part of my life as well, with my closest cousin starting marijuana in middle school, moving to acid, etc. in high school, and afterward continuing to cocaine and ultimately heroin. Fortunately, she has survived and we think she has been off the heroin for many years now (will the methodone ever end? it’s been 11 years) – while some of her closest friends (including her boyfriend) overdosed and died. Through it all, her parents have kept up a cool country club detachment – I think most people don’t even know they have children, much less that one’s a drug addict and the other’s a functioning alcoholic – and it has been heartbreaking to watch both children, now adults (and seemingly trapped in adolescence) flirt with death while the parents stare at them like accessories that are out of season. Thank you for showing the perspective of a loving parent.
06/01/2010 at 7:51 pm
Praying for you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 7:53 pm
There are no words adequate to this loss. Know that you, your family — and Henry — are in my thoughts and prayers.
06/01/2010 at 7:57 pm
Katie, I’m so sorry for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 8:01 pm
I’m terribly sorry for your family’s loss. Please know that you and your family will be closely held in my thoughts and my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 8:02 pm
I just read your journey and what you’ve had to go through.
Henry sounded like a wonderful, incredible guy no matter what kind of struggles he was fighting.
I can’t tell you how very, very sorry I am for your loss.
06/01/2010 at 8:28 pm
I am a friend of Tami Waters and Michlle Brotman in Columbia, SC. I wanted to say how very deeply sorry I am for your loss. Your son is beautiful. His long curly hair reminds me of my little boys curls. I am crying for you and the loss of your baby boy Henry. Please know my thoughts are with you and your family and children.
06/01/2010 at 8:47 pm
I am just learning your story and am so, so sorry to hear this news today. You and your family will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
06/01/2010 at 9:00 pm
Katie – I am so sorry for your loss. I am a mother of a 13-year-old boy. He told me a few weeks ago that one of his best friends has started smoking pot, and as a former pothead, I kinda rolled my eyes and thought, Well crap. Mostly it just came sooner than I expected. Reading through your blog today, I’ve come to see what a gift, what a guidepost, that conversation was. There is no vigilance too extreme when it comes to my child’s life. I don’t know how I’m going to set about inserting myself into this situation, and I fully understand that I may piss a few people off. But whatever.
My son has thick, lustrous, enviable hair, and he plays the guitar. I so appreciate everything you have shared and the difference it has made over here. I am deeply saddened at your loss, moved by your strength, touched by the glimpse of your family that you have so generously given. May peace be with you all.
06/01/2010 at 9:30 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that memories of happier days will be of some small comfort to you and your family.
06/01/2010 at 9:32 pm
Katie, I ran accross your blog via Dooce’s site and I read through the struggles your family has had with your son. I firstly want to say how sorry I am that that the story has ended so tragically. I also wanted to let you know that you’ve opened my eyes and I will be a better parent because of you. I was brought up by hippies and there were bongs taller than me in our house from the time I was born until I was in college. I experimented but never with anything heavy and my husband and I have discussed what we will do if/when our girls (now 7 & 5) “experiment”. In the past, I was not terribly worried but now, because of your struggles, I am on my husbands side and the hammer will come down if we ever find out about any illegal drugs in their vicinity. I want to thank you for that. Peace and loving vibes are being sent from me to your entire family and circle of people who cared for and about your beautiful son Henry.
06/01/2010 at 9:32 pm
Just a reader writing to tell you how sorry I am for your devastating loss. May your beautiful boy rest in peace.
06/01/2010 at 10:01 pm
I’m so, so sorry. I don’t have children but I read about Henry on Twitter a week or so ago. I’ve been following along and hoping for a miracle. I can’t say how much I wish for you and your family that you’d gotten one. He really was beautiful.
(P.S.: please don’t feel as if you have to respond to this comment, now or ever. the last thing I want to do is create some to-do list item for you or your family right now.)
06/01/2010 at 10:02 pm
Came here (now and on many previous occasions) via Instapundit. Can’t begin to express how sorry I am to read this. You and your family will be in my prayers.
06/01/2010 at 10:21 pm
Katie, I am so very very sorry. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts. My heart is breaking for you.
06/01/2010 at 10:29 pm
What a beautiful, beautiful young man. Thank you for sharing his story.
06/01/2010 at 10:29 pm
I’m so sorry. Henry’s story will influence my parenting as well…thank you for him.
06/01/2010 at 10:32 pm
I wanted to add my condolences as well. I only found your blog yesterday through “The Happiest Mom” and spent a long time reading all of your posts about your son. I checked in today and I am so sorry to hear of your loss. As the mother of a 2 1/2 year old son I can’t imagine the grief you must be experiencing. I want to thank you for sharing your story during this unbelievably difficult time because it will help other families. May peace be with you, your family and Henry.
06/01/2010 at 11:20 pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something that could be said to take the pain away, but there isn’t. With time your love for him will cover the wounds and wash away the bad times. Eventually it becomes only the beautiful memories. May that time come very fast for you and your family.
06/02/2010 at 1:16 am
Katie,
I am so sorry.
My thoughts are with you and your children – both born and unborn – right now.
06/02/2010 at 2:03 am
So unfair. I am so very, very sorry.
He is a beautiful boy, love to you and your family. Much love.
06/02/2010 at 2:26 am
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. (((hug)))
06/02/2010 at 3:44 am
I am so, so sorry for your loss of your beautiful son. I am praying for you and your family.
Larissa, The Netherlands
06/02/2010 at 7:03 am
I am so, so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son.
06/02/2010 at 7:04 am
I am so sorry for you, your family, your friends and everyone who knew your son. He will be greatly missed by so many people. My thoughts are with you.
Marijke, Belgium
06/02/2010 at 7:32 am
Katie, my heart goes out to you and your family. May you all be held close in the love of your extended family and friends.
06/02/2010 at 8:03 am
my heart goes out to you and your family. i’m so sorry and wish I could say more.
06/02/2010 at 8:04 am
i’ve never commented here before, but i’ve followed your son’s recent tragedy.
words cannot express how sorry i am for you loss. and how grateful i am that you’ve been brave enough to share your story with us.
sending healing blessings–from one mama to another.
06/02/2010 at 8:09 am
My heart is breaking for your family at this saddest of times.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
06/02/2010 at 8:24 am
Katie,
My friend posted your site on facebook and as soon as I saw those beautiful pictures of Henry at the top of your site I started weeping. He is so, so beautiful and full of life in those photographs.
I am feeling this incredible web of mothers who you have woven together in your pain and your joy. We are all with you. Thank you.
Sue Johnson
06/02/2010 at 8:31 am
My deepest condolences to you and your family during this terrible time.
06/02/2010 at 8:46 am
I didn’t know your story before yesterday, but the pictures, and your story, I’ve pieced together from babble and other sites, and your own archives.
Henry was a beautiful boy. He was not his addiction. He was so much more. He was and is inspiration. I have talked to my 6 year old son about drugs because of Henry, and I will continue to do so as he grows older, and will also talk to my 2 year old daughter when she’s old enough to understand what I’m saying. I will start them early talking about the dangers of drugs and the peer pressure they could see. I will tell them they have a safe place to talk about it in me and their father. I will remember Henry every time the subject comes up.
You have opened a dialogue about something still considered taboo, and I think you’ll have helped countless parents deal with the minefield of drugs and where experimentation can lead. I personally cannot thank you enough for your openness and honesty surrounding Henry’s situation. I know you’ve received some flak for your decision to tell the secret you’d kept for so long, but I want you to know my opinion is that you’re helping so many more by being open despite what the judgers think.
I will remember Henry, his beautiful curly hair and vibrant eyes and smile, his easy demeanor, and his potential, and also what the drugs took away from him. I won’t forget.
My deepest condolences. Your loss is breaking my heart. I’m so sorry.
06/02/2010 at 9:11 am
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story, I am sure it has impacted many mothers as it has me. My prayers are with you and your family.
06/02/2010 at 9:15 am
I am so sorry. The pictures are beautiful. Your words bring me to feel like I am there with your family, as much as a strangers heart can ache for you, your son and your family. Which is more than I can describe. Henry looks so much like my littlest brother. I can’t stop crying for you. I am so sorry.
06/02/2010 at 9:41 am
I heard about you from Twitter. I’ve spent the past hour reading about your heartbreaking journey with Henry. I’m so, so sorry.
And scared. I caught my 14 year old high in April. I told the school. He ended up suspended and we started counseling,etc. He’ll be 15 next month and I am scared. Scared because although he says he is done, I know he thinks it doesn’t do any harm. He’s at that age where he thinks he’s invincible. He’ll be 15 in a few weeks and I am scared for him.
Thank you for sharing your life.
06/02/2010 at 9:41 am
He is beautiful. Truly.
06/02/2010 at 9:50 am
This is my first visit to your blog. I am crying for you and the loss of your beautiful Henry. I am so very sorry.
06/02/2010 at 10:07 am
I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. I will be watchful for signs of abuse in my own children.
Hugs and prayers
Kathy
06/02/2010 at 10:38 am
Your family is in my thoughts during this unbelievable time. Your son will always be remembered by so many internet “strangers” who only met him through your beautiful words.
So sorry for your pain.
06/02/2010 at 10:43 am
Katie, I’m so sorry. Thank you for your courage, and peace and comfort to you and your family.
06/02/2010 at 10:49 am
I am so sorry. My thoughts are with your family.
06/02/2010 at 10:59 am
I am so unbelievably sorry for you and your family’s loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
06/02/2010 at 11:40 am
May he be at peace. Love to you and your family during this difficult time.
06/02/2010 at 11:52 am
I just learned of this. I know there are no words that can help, but please know you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.
06/02/2010 at 11:58 am
I just started reading your blog and I am so sorry for your family’s loss. I have a 13 year old son who I worry will follow the pack. I will be sharing your story with him and make him see how life is precious and can turn in a heartbeat. Cheryl
06/02/2010 at 12:04 pm
My deepest sympathies to your family, my heart is breaking into a million pieces for you. I can not wrap my head around this. I just found your blog today through zoot and have spent most of the day reading about Henry’s tragedy. I can not stop thinking of your family. It could so easily be any of us. It could be me. My own now 24 year old son dabbled in the drug scene as a teen but after a DUI/arrest he seems to have moved away from it. (I hope, he no longer lives with us, so anything is possible)
You are so brave for sharing Henry’s story, I hope his legacy saves other children from the same fate. Your family has touched so many lives, and you will all be in my prayers. Sending much love and strength your way.
06/02/2010 at 12:47 pm
I can only add my name to the countless other strangers here who have been changed by your son’s story, and your own. I just discovered your blog days ago and have been profoundly affected. I am so sorry to hear that Henry has died. Like many others, I have used his story to begin tough and necessary communications with my own eldest son, aged 7. He is sensitive and smart enough to begin the dialogue now. He joins me in sending condolences to your whole family. Thank you for bravely sharing your beloved son with us.
06/02/2010 at 1:07 pm
I am so sorry to hear about your son. I will keep your family in my thoughts. My son, 16, and I will continue our conversations about drug use, and hopefully Henry’s story will have an impact on him and his friends.
06/02/2010 at 1:39 pm
I am so sorry. My son didn’t die after taking a drug’s overdose buthe has been left mentally and physically disabled . I often wish he had died. If Henry was going to be left mentally disabled maybe one day you will think death was the best thing for him.
06/02/2010 at 2:29 pm
I’m so, so, sorry.
06/02/2010 at 2:39 pm
I am saddened by the lack of humanity in our society.
Yes, Henry was addicted to drugs.
Yes, Henry was in the wrong place at the wrong time, doing something he shouldn’t have been doing. But haven’t we ALL been guilty of the latter and only by the grace of God or luck we didn’t end up in a life shattering situation.
Henry wasn’t perfect but he IS somebody VERY special. He is somebody’s baby; he is somebody’s world. He was one of the reasons that somebody got out of bed every morning. He was the big brother 3 little ones who will never get to enjoy their big brother. He was the friend of a lot of people who will never get to hear him play guitar again or laugh at making him sleep in the recliner. Henry was a beautiful boy, who came from good loving parents. Unfortunately, the little experimenting that kids sometimes do went a little too far until he found himself in the bondage of addiction. His death is a loss not only to his mother, family, and friends but also to society itself. Yes, at the time when he died he was an addict but HE WAS JUST A CHILD, his life could have been turned around. Henry was smart, handsome, bubbly, talented and most of all LOVED BY A LOT OF PEOPLE. As the mother of one of his friends who started done this path with him, PLEASE PARENTS don’t stick your head in the sand and hope that it’s just a phase that will pass. We parents need to stand up, unite together and drag our youth out of this hell that has sucked them in. How sad is it that this generation is called “ Generation RX”. I will do whatever it takes for his death not to be in vain; I hope you’ll do the same.
Derinda- Logan’s mom
06/02/2010 at 2:52 pm
I came here from suburbancorrespondent’s blog, grateful for the compassion of her post and needing to offer what little of my own I can in hopes it might help in the face of the unfathomable. What a beautiful, beautiful son.
You did your best. He would want to tell you that now.
06/02/2010 at 3:32 pm
As a mother I cry with you I can never imagine the hurt. Im so sorry.
06/02/2010 at 4:00 pm
Crying with and praying for you in Jerusalem.
06/02/2010 at 5:03 pm
I have been reading your work for a while now, but never commented. My firstborn is also named Henry; he is 6 months old. I cannot imagine your loss. I hope for you to have the courage to make it through this difficult time. I am so very sorry for you and your family.
06/02/2010 at 5:29 pm
I’m so terribly sorry for your unimaginable loss. I’m crying for you and for all those who love Henry.
06/02/2010 at 6:36 pm
Thank you for sharing your story with all of us so honestly and I’m hoping that you and your family feel a tiny bit of peace each day so that you can continue on without your beloved boy.
06/02/2010 at 7:01 pm
So sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your family.
06/02/2010 at 7:14 pm
Katie and family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. May you be wrapped in loving arms of comfort and strength.
Love,
The Maisonville Family
06/02/2010 at 7:21 pm
Katie, I don’t think I ever had the pleasure of meeting you, but as a former Knoxvillian I’ve read you for years. I can’t tell you how sorry I was to hear of Henry’s addiction and the assault, and how sad I am at this news.
Henry was beautiful, and you are a beautiful mother. I wish you and your family strength as you cope with your unfathomable loss, comfort from being together with your family and others you love, and long-term support from every possible direction.
06/02/2010 at 7:25 pm
My family’s hearts go out to you and your family. Nothing hurts more than losing a child- we understand. Much love and empathy.
06/02/2010 at 7:46 pm
I know that no words of mine can change what has happened. I am the daughter of a man who struggled with addiction, to various substances which ultimately took his life. I have been profoundly touched by your willingness to share H’s story and have only this to offer; H was not his addiction, he had an addiction, just as my father did, but that certainly isn’t the sum of there lives. The joy they shared, the happiness they brought, and the love they gave and we gave them endures. H will always be with you just as my father is with me. Even though there were terrible times, even though his death caused me so much heartache, the 18 years I had with my father more than made up for all I endured. I know that I loved my father with all that I had, and I know you loved H just the same and nothing can ever change that.
06/02/2010 at 7:47 pm
Oh. Oh. OH. I don’t know what to say except a million I’m sorrys and that I will hold you and your beautiful family in my heart.
06/02/2010 at 8:46 pm
I am so very very sorry for your loss. what a tragic journey your family has been through. thinking of you and your whole family.
06/02/2010 at 9:01 pm
My heart is breaking for you. We don’t know each other, but I am a mother as well, and what more of a bond do we need for me to mourn the loss of your beautiful son. I’m so sorry.
06/02/2010 at 9:15 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know you’re not alone. I lost my 21 year old nephew, found dead May 22nd. We’re waiting for toxicology reports.
06/02/2010 at 9:39 pm
Holding you (all) in the light. Broken hearts sometimes help us realize just how large our hearts, and a great sense of love, can be. The love expressed in your posts is what comes through the strongest to me, and leaves me in tears.
06/02/2010 at 9:49 pm
Katie,
I keep typing and re-typing unsure of what to say. Sorry doesn’t seem strong enough to convey what I want to say to you and your family. I can’t imagine the pain you all must be feeling, I am holding you in my thoughts and hoping that some of justice will come for Henry. He should be here with you now, I really hope that the police continue to fully investigate. All my love and thoughts to your family.
06/02/2010 at 10:30 pm
Words are inadequate, but please know that I am so, deeply sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. Know that you, and your son, are have impacted me and the way I think about drugs.
06/03/2010 at 6:34 am
I’m shattered H is gone. I am so very sorry about his death and I hope that somehow through this awful tragedy that some good comes of it.
06/03/2010 at 9:06 am
Blessings and love to you and your family. I am so sorry.
06/03/2010 at 9:46 am
I’ve come to you late, through a recommendation on another blog I follow and even knowing so little about you I am devastated for you. What a gorgeous boy. What an unfathomable loss. I hope the joy of his memory will come to outweigh the pain of his loss. You honor him and give his death meaning by sharing and helping others. Peace to you and yours.
06/03/2010 at 11:20 am
im sorry for your loss. keep faith and dont loose heart! your family will be in my prayers!
love and prayers from INDIA
06/03/2010 at 11:29 am
I deeply believe that each of us has a purpose in our lives, and also in death. Through you, your beautiful son can help to bring more compassion and understanding about the addictions so many souls struggle with today. I wish you the best of luck in your search for justice and I offer sincere condolences to you and your family.
06/03/2010 at 12:45 pm
Katie,
I came to your blog via herbadmother, and have read through your blog entries about Henry and his struggle to live after his assault and overdose. I am so incredibly sad to see he is gone. My heart just aches for you and your family, I am so sad and sorry that his bright light is gone.
If by sharing Henry’s struggles, you help just one family address addiction in their family, you have both made a difference in this world. Thank you so much for sharing with, and enlightening, me.
06/03/2010 at 3:08 pm
My feelings are indescribable. I went through your updates and the beautiful pictures of Henry–thank you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
06/03/2010 at 3:18 pm
Katie,
I just discovered your blog via a post by dooce. I am heart broken for you and your family. I’m so sorry for your loss, and you are all in my prayers.
I also wanted to thank you for being so courageous. I went back and read several of your posts about Henry’s struggles, and I was deeply moved. Your words are so important, and they have the power to bring awareness and to help other people.
I am the mother of a beautiful 2 year old boy, who also has wild curly hair and loves music. After reading your story, I started to imagine my boy as a teenager. Knowing that drug addiction can happen to anyone, I stayed up late writing a letter to my son about Henry’s story and the dangers of drug use. (I’ll give it to him when he’s older.)
I am so, so sad that your beautiful Henry is gone. His story has made a difference to me, and it will stay with me forever.
Love and prayers to you and your family,
Brianne
06/03/2010 at 10:03 pm
What a beautiful, beautiful child!
My heart breaks for you, and for all who knew your Henry.
Good luck to you as you move forward.
06/03/2010 at 10:58 pm
I am so, so sorry for your loss. My worst fear is that my oldest, now 13, will follow Henry’s path. Thank you for sharing his story -
06/04/2010 at 2:03 pm
What a beautiful boy. So truly sorry for your loss.
06/04/2010 at 4:54 pm
I’m so sorry to read this. He looked like an angel.
06/04/2010 at 5:05 pm
Katie,
I don’t believe I’ve ever read a nicer obituary – it gave me insights to a young man that I’ve not seen since he was a baby. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time and the days to come. May you find some peace in all the loving thoughts being expressed here and your beautiful memories of Henry.
06/04/2010 at 5:18 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss you are in my thoughts.
06/04/2010 at 9:48 pm
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I know words only go so far, but you’ll be in my heart.
06/06/2010 at 1:52 am
Condolences from a stranger in San Francisco, touched by your story.
06/07/2010 at 8:50 am
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Our hears and prayers are with you.
06/07/2010 at 7:01 pm
I’m just another stranger who was touched by your story. I’m also a parent, and I cannot fathom what you are going through. I’m so incredibly sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. He was a beautiful boy.
06/09/2010 at 8:24 am
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. I am also just a stranger (from Norway), who have read your books and followed your blog. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, and hope whoever did this to your son will be brought to justice. May he rest in peace.
06/09/2010 at 5:49 pm
What a beautiful young man. My heart is sinking as I read your story, it is all too familiar to me, struggling with an addicted son, hoping and praying for his recovery. You have been through so much….Praying for God’s peace, grace and strength in your life right now and most of all for comfort. I am so sorry for your loss.
06/13/2010 at 8:09 pm
The day after I started my own blog, I came across Henry’s story and I have been haunted by it since. I don’t know you and have only now read your incredible blog, but please know that you are in my prayers. I was so moved by Henry’s eyes in every gorgeous picture that I wrote my second blog post about him. I hope you don’t mind.
http://playeatlove.blogspot.com/2010/06/henry-louis-granju-1991-2010.html
May you and Henry find the peace you both so deserve.