Comments on: What remains

By: Monika

Monika — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:14:03 +0000

It seems surreal, like a bad dream, until you get those quiet, cold envelopes where the horror and loss of it is efficiently laid out in black and white: To The Estate Of.

I wish we could grind back the gears and undo what has happened; turn back the clock. At first, it almost seems possible, but then as more and more time passes, the cruelty of reality sinks in.

At least in Canada we don’t have the indignity of receiving the bills for failed medical treatments…

Oh Katie, the more you reveal of Henry, the more my heart breaks — for him, for you and all his loved ones and family, but also for the world, at the loss of such a lovely creative soul, lost for the want of compassion and sane government policy.

By: dewi

dewi — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 11:07:14 +0000

It’s interesting how you thought about and commented on Henry’s feet and his tan lines this morning.

And C said something about “loosing her feet” yesterday.

By: 100 Days in Bed

100 Days in Bed — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 05:34:46 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear that people are saying mean things in the comments section of papers reporting the crime. I hope dearly that people are realizing it could so easily be their child, but with that realization comes denial and anger and they must lash out. Unforgivable.

Try not to read it. I say that from experience. I just had to read one article about my cousin and it just put me on the floor.

Hugs to you.

By: Erika

Erika — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 04:26:41 +0000

I’m so sorry. I hate the “life goes on” part.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 03:34:14 +0000

I’m so very sorry that you have to deal with all these painful details. It doesn’t help pay the medical bills, but Henry left behind beautiful memories and love and a story that is already helping other people.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 02:07:19 +0000

I agree with the previous commentor who suggested getting your attorney involved so that you don’t have to try to sort this out alone. Also, to make sure that you are playing or not paying the appropriate items. I have no idea what kind of financial responsibility devolves on the family of a deceased person under these circumstances, but it certainly can’t hurt to get an expert opinion.

You continue to be in my thoughts. I hope your family receives the guidance and strength to get through these difficult days.

By: SarahB

SarahB — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:29:59 +0000

If there was ever a time to ask someone for help, surely this would be it. Could someone sort through all the papers and figure out what’s owed? Can your lawyer tell you what you’re responsible for paying for (or not)? I’ve got to think there’s someone savvy you could hand all the papers to and say “sort this out.” You could even give that person, if trusted, power of attorney to talk to the insurance company for you.

Talk about adding insult to injury…

By: Maggie May

Maggie May — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 21:22:00 +0000

this makes me inarticulate. my heart is out toward you.