In my opinion, if it is in fact the case that the married Gen. Allen has been sending that much personal email to an (also married) civilian who is not his wife, it almost doesn’t matter what the emails actually say. That’s just de facto inappropriate unless he’s adding his wife as a CC recipient when corresponding with Ms. Kelley. Do y’all agree with me? Or no?
I do have some very, very serious concerns about how the FBI has come to access all these private email accounts, and what they’ve done with the personal info they found once they got into them, but I will save that specific topic for a blog post later this week.
For today, I’m just left wondering lately whether it’s even possible for men who reach a certain level of power or wealth or fame or influence to maintain the promises they’ve voluntarily made to their significant others. Is some level of extra-marital involvement something that just naturally comes with the territory if you’re Arnold Schwarzenegger or Bill Cosby or David Petraeus or Bill Clinton or Jesse Jackson or David Vitter or Jack Nicholson or …
And another question to ponder: Do powerful/famous/wealthy women cheat just as often as their male counterparts? I’d argue that generally, they do not. One likely reason for this is that usually, by the time a married woman has reached a level of power or influence equal to, say, David Petraeus, she’s going to be in middle age or well beyond. And in our youth-obsessed culture, women are not considered sexual beings after about age 50 (or sooner), meaning that women at that level aren’t likely to have the male version of Paula Broadwell following them around and making themselves romantically available to them.
My second theory on why powerful women likely don’t cheat nearly as often as their male counterparts is based on the way men & women in U.S. culture continue to relate to one another even now that we have more women than ever holding professional power and influence. It’s still the case even today that men with power proactively attract certain women by virtue of that power, while powerful women of the same stature not only don’t attract the opposite sex in a potentially sexual way, but they actually repel them. In other words, a married 60 year old female general isn’t going to be most 40 year old American men’s idea of a good time when it comes to zeroing in on a potential romantic interest.
So what do y’all think about all of this? I’d love to know. Let’s discuss.
UPDATE: C’mon y’all. Let’s be kind and polite even when we express disagreement with one another’s opinions. Ad hominem responses to other commenters such as, “that’s nonsense,” add nothing to the discourse, and I think we’ve got more thoughtful things to say on this topic than that. I know we do.
Okay? Okay! Now back to our regularly scheduled discussion…. – Katie